Dating advice If you believe the statistics, women over 60 are now acting like year-olds. Above all, they are choosing to be single in numbers never seen before. What the hell is happening? It may be the empty nest, the beckoning role as nursemaid or the prospect of retirement that is the trigger for married overs to run in the opposite direction. Gina Pressman Elardo and friend.
This generation took advantage of the Pill, abortion legislation and the Equal Pay Act, so have been shaped to feel that life has infinitely more possibilities than for their mothers and grandmothers. Was all this going to stop when they were handed a free bus pass? They are a very different, far more sassy breed of something — who may have shone in the workplace, lived through punk, were educated for free and travelled the world cheaply.
And part of the reason older women are no longer so wary of being single, Jane believes, is that is there is more acceptance of the ageing process. Artist Joyce Gunn Cairns , 67, is typical of this new breed of single something. I have nobody moaning at my elbow, nobody who has expectations of me, or is possessive, or dictates how I should spend my time.
A relationship would take up too much emotional energy. Joyce agrees with every woman I interviewed for this feature that good health and a sufficient income can make or break the experience of being an singleton over I am very, very fortunate. What more could you ask for? I have quite a few single friends, some who never married.
But one learns to deal with it. In her experience, she says, these changes are far more often instigated by women than men. This is borne out by statistics: She agrees with the reasons most often cited for the divorce boom in the overs: And they take those choices. I have always been single by choice and have never chosen to live with someone. Last year she celebrated her 60th birthday with a large and rowdy group of close friends.
I do have a boyfriend. We see each at weekends and we go on holiday together. We are there for each other when we are ill. Gina Pressman Elardo, 60, is an ex-TV producer whose marriage of 17 years ended in divorce. She now lives in Paris where, she says, she is happy to be single but does sometimes miss the companionship. She does, however, have an active sex life — with a man who is 15 years younger. I have a wonderful group of friends.
But we are in a world that is in transition, where things are speeding up. And you think, how many really good years do I have left? To enjoy what you have, to live the way you want to and to do it now.