However, that's beginning to change. Nervous first-timers should start with plenty of foreplay, take things very slowly, and use lots of lube.
Above all else, couples should be sure to communicate openly about what feels good and what doesn't," says Tristan Weedmark, We-Vibe 's global passion ambassador. Of course, as in any other type of sexual connection, mutual trust is key. Once you can get past the hang-ups or the fears many of us have, anal sex can open new doors to pleasure. Kick it up a notch for her by adding clitoral stimulation , either manually or with a powerful mini-vibe," says Weedmark. But still, anal sex is one of those things women have very strong feelings about.
Some love it, and some hate it… and for that reason, we got to the bottom of it so to speak! Keep this in mind before broaching the back door in your own bedroom. The Ick Aspect It feels really good when you take a good poop, so one would imagine that's the draw for trying some anal, right? Not really, says one woman I surveyed. I absolutely CRINGE at the thought of how the suppository makes its way up your canal before your anus closes and swallows it whole.
It gives me the heebie-jeebies — like nails on a chalkboard. So, while I really like the satisfying feeling you get when something comes out of the butt, there's just no way I can fathom a cock going in there," says Alex, from Florida. The Pain Factor This seems to be the top reason as to why women say no to anal sex.
Guys that like being pegged enjoy it as it the dildo stimulates their prostate gland and that pleasure overrides most of the pain of entry," says Coleen Singer of Sssh.
Personally, if I haven't had anal sex for a while, I'll pop in a medium size butt plug for an hour or so before taking the penis as it relaxes the sphincter and makes penetration much more pleasant," says Singer. Health Concerns Sometimes women are turned off by the hygienic and health aspects of anything going on in the backdoor.
I prefer natural enemas with no scent as these tend to irritate the rectum which can lead to a painful experience," says Singer. Consent is extremely important when it comes to sex. Don't try to push she issue if she's really not into it. Before we get to the reasons women love anal, here are some good anal lube options to stock up on if you're looking to give her an experience she'll love: Pjur Backdoor Silicone Glide While silicone lube is often a no-no for toys, it's perfect for body-on-body action like anal.
Backdoor Silicone Glide, an anal lube by Pjur, is thick and rich. With just a few drops, you'll be set — plus, it's condom- and non-silicone-toy-compatible. It's got a thicker texture than many water-based lubes as a result — almost gel-like — to offer you all the lubrication you need.
As with all water-based lubes, it'll dry out faster than silicone, but a little bit of water splashed on the right area will "re-activate" it if you need a boost when it comes to the slippery factor. Most women have a little wild streak in them and want to be a bad girl from time to time. I personally swing between being the sexual dominant including occasionally pegging my man to being the submissive which frequently includes having my guy's dick in my butt!
It's all about getting there in the way that works for you, and then having fun with it. The anus is not self-lubricating like a pussy so you need to either use lubricants or provide plenty of spit. Also, if you're not man or woman enough to stick your tongue in my butthole then you're not sticking anything else in there," White says.
It Can Lead To Massive Orgasms "As there are a lot of nerve bundles in the rectal canal, I know a number of women that say a combination of anal penetration and clit stimulation results in bone shaking, screaming orgasms," says Singer. Relaxation is key and also making sure you're lubed up. The best sex position I've ever felt it in was laying on my stomach and he sneaked it in between my cheeks, laid down on top of me and rubbed my clit with one hand while supporting himself with the other, and whispering dirty things in my ear while nibbling on it," says Jillian Janson , an award-winning adult star.
Everyone likes it different, but the main point is positioning is key too. Which is why most professional porn stars are particular with what they eat, especially when they are planning a film shoot that involves anal sex," says Janson. Pain Is Sometimes Pleasurable Be it spanking or paddling, nipple clips or anal sex, a bit of pain can really get the juices flowing for many women. It's The Gift That Keeps On Giving "My guy absolutely loves anal sex from time to time, so any time he does something particularly sweet, brave or helpful for me, I very often reward him with my waiting derriere.
Not only does he totally appreciate me offering, but in the B. Skinner "operant conditioning" model of psychology, it reinforces him doing sweet, brave and helpful things in the future! He loves anal sex and was very experienced! The difference with him is that he made his priority to make sure I was relaxed, that I trusted him and was having fun. I tried it again with another person and had to shut that down immediately as that level of trust or care was absent.
Although the physical dalliance between Mr. Anal Sex guy and I have stopped for a few years, we're still friends who check up on each other! No Risk Of Pregnancy While it's theoretically possible to get pregnant from anal sex if the semen or ejaculate leaks out and into the vagina, it's super unlikely. That's what I like about anal sex!