Comment How would you feel if your partner tells you that he or she has been unfaithful? What would you do? Regardless if it was in the past or the present, it truly hurts to know that the person you love betrayed your trust. Of course, there are those who are unfaithful despite having an ideal relationship with their spouses.
And, although it is more common for males to get involved in extra-marital affairs, there are women who fall into temptation. This may not have been the most unsurprising consequence of what happened that night, but she certainly did not expect her husband to do what he did.
Here is the story: My wife and I had known each other for about 5 years, together for about 3 or 4. She ended up not completing her course and dropping out, moving in with me while we were dating.
We made plans for marriage a while ago, and everything fell into place according to plan. Things were going perfectly. She met my family, they loved her, things were going great. Well, less than a month before we got married, we found out she was pregnant.
No big deal, it happens. We were using condoms, but whatever, it happens, there could have been a few times where we just did the pullout method instead. We went ahead with the marriage as planned. I am absolutely certain I am in love with this woman, I thought everything was going great. I always felt there was a distance, something strange in her behavior. Well, recently she opened up to me and confessed to me the truth: She was crying and extremely apologetic, telling me she loved me.
Apparently around the time she conceived, she had gone to a party with some of her friends and ended up having drunk sex with some stranger. I was shocked, I felt numb. I had no idea how to respond.
I told her we need to do a paternity test, she agreed. She said it was the worst decision of her life and she regretted every day ever since, and she had only trusted me to open up to me because she loved me, and I knew I loved her and would forgive her.
Well, we did the procedure, we had to see a geneticist, explain our reasons. It involved taking a sample from the placenta of the child. I had no idea what would happen to her if I left her. She has no source of income, she has no family here, only a few friends. She has to support herself and a child on her own. Part of me strongly wanted a divorce or an annulment. I know she would suffer incredibly if I left her, personally, emotionally, and financially.
But I still loved her. I think it could happen to anybody, especially under the influence of useless friends. I was confused and I decided to go to a quiet place. I went to the church, sat there for a long time asking God for help. AsI started crying I told them everything and explained my dilemma. If she is sorry, I should give her a chance. They told me to be strong and go be with her as she needed me more than ever, to comfort her.
Love is being with your partner through all ups and downs, they said. They said that they know it would be difficult for me, but they seemed sure the two of us would be a wonderful couple and great parents to the little one. Somewhere in my heart I started to ponder on the advice this beautiful couple gave me and I suddenly felt a sense of inner peace. My daughter is my best friend, and my wife and I have never loved each other as much as we do today. If your wife committed adultery, would you forgive her?
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