I thought that this recent question deserved to be highlighted more: Now, I am new also in the toy buying and I need your advice. Can you recommend something for beginners? Any advice will be appreciated. A plug is something you wear around for hours or you can also just use it for the occasion, while just a simple toy is used as-is.
The most comfortable plugs have a definitive difference between the neck and the body, with a decent base. That first sphincter muscle, especially, can be quite stubborn for beginners on letting anything inside the ass. Your rectum and sphincter are built for exit-only; when the sphincter is open, it wants to close.
And when things come out it is much easier than putting something in. The Tantus Silks are the absolute best. I was steered towards the Silk Small as a warm-up and introductory toy to my Crystal Delights plug ; despite the fact that I chose their smaller plug, it was still a little too big for me to just jump right to.
The Silk Small was amazing. These are smooth, plain and great for getting the anus and sphincter used to having something there. The same can be said for the Ripple Small from Grab Bag. Tantus Meteorite is slightly bigger than the Little Flirt, but the fun colors demand a higher price tag. This would actually be great for prostate play introduction. They make one in standard Vixen silicone, and then the Spur is the soft, Vixskin option. That will give you a little cushion and comfort.
Plugs that receive rave reviews from everyone are the Njoy Pure Plugs. I know that stainless steel can seem intimidating to a first-timer, which is why warm-up toys are imperative. The Pure Plug Medium though has a max diameter of 1. The Tantus Ryder is also a good pick. Make sure you use plenty of lube! Thicker gel-like lubes work best for anal play. While many companies will tell you that you should avoid silicone-based lubes with silicone toys, the higher quality silicone of Tantus can tolerate certain higher-quality silicone-based lubes.
As always though, you have to do lube research — too low of a pH for lube for the butt can lead to a stinging sensation which is not good! Use the Lube Guide to find a lube that is a good pH and devoid of irritating chemicals.
Random Important Anal Play Information: I can understand that newbies will be nervous about it feeling weird or hurting, but the anus is very special — if you do not use enough lube and you use a toy that is too big, too soon, you can create tiny tears in the skin called fissures. This is a safety trick for both the receiver fingernails!! Never, ever ever ever share anything between the ass and the mouth or the ass and the vagina.
Have I made my point clear? Ignore what they do in porn. Those butts have been cleaned out better than your average endoscopy requires, and there is no fecal matter that might transfer.
This also applies to sex toys. And you absolutely must sanitize in between orifices. There will sometimes be a little poop. Just have warm, wet washclothes or baby wipes right near by. If your partner cannot handle this, then you need to rethink anal play with them. Anal play, when done right, can be very pleasurable — for women and men.
Many women have experienced g-spot stimulation via anal play the wall inside between the vagina and rectum is very thin. My response is directed to the asker, who has a female partner.