Little kids are hanging off of you. The phone is ringing off the hook. Adding more play , laughter and affection into our day I hope you all had a great time yesterday going over 14 ways to play with your husband!
All of those things will make intimacy more natural. But what about actually getting in a frisky frame of mind? That seems kind of, well, icky. And winter is substantially longer. And so many northern gals throw those razors away in the winter. No one, that is, except you and your husband. So make your body itself feel great! Shave and use lots of lotion to keep your skin soft and smooth.
Wear clothes that make you feel attractive and that flatter your shape— whatever shape that is! They can dress any body shape and the women always end up looking incredible. It is better to have six outfits that make you feel amazing than it is to have 50 T-shirts and 7 pairs of mom jeans that make you feel dowdy.
Seriously, there is nothing X-rated about a nice bra and panty set, and it will make you feel so much more sophisticated and sexy! If you spend your day looking and feeling attractive, it will boost your confidence level at night. I personally think I have nice feet. So dress your body attractively, and play up those features that you love! And when do we take that time? When the kids are in bed—right when we could be being romantic with your husband! If you just need 45 minutes on your own everyday, find a way to build it into your routine.
It honestly is okay to stick the kids in front of a video for 45 minutes so you can work on a scrapbook page if you have to. It is more important to have a great marriage than it is to spend every waking minute stimulating your children. If you need time just to read a novel, then read a novel.
And now figure out: Because if you can take that time to yourself during the day, you really will be more rejuvenated at night. So you need a reminder, or a trigger, to think sexy! What about choosing one common activity, or one trigger point, that makes you smile or think about the last great encounter you had?
Say, every time you do the dishes, you think about your favourite sexual memory. Sleep This may not sound very exciting, but it is awfully important: If exhaustion is a big culprit in killing our libidos, then we have to treat sleep seriously. Most women need at least 8 hours of sleep. If the kids wake you up at 6: It means lights out. Which also means that you should be crawling into bed closer to 9: Can you sleep well in your house?
Is your bed comfortable? Have you trained the kids to sleep well more on that later this month? Have you removed distractions from your bedroom, like TVs and work and laundry that needs folding? Want to be frisky tonight? Put things in place now to make that happen cause it's not automatic!
Put all that together, and what do you have? Prepare for sex by spending your morning making sure you feel attractive. Find some me time throughout the day. Even just one or two outfits can make a huge difference. And if she needs time to herself, help her figure out a way to get it! It's expanded, it's written for couples not just women , and it's easy to use! You'll talk, flirt, and explore! Ignite your marriage here.