The mood cuts from reminiscent to present and unapologetic, Quindlen abandoning the talk of a dance to testify: The author ends the piece by picking up on her train of thought where she left off at the beginning of the essay.
She does this by creating a strong and prevalent metaphor, relating to her audience, and creating similarities in diction. The metaphorical gap between the sexes exists in society and always has. Quindlen establishes a relationship with her audience through her nostalgic tone and relatable experience. By using identical sentence structure she demonstrates how similar the two sexes are, but are different in the small ways just as these two set of sentences are identical in structure, and only differentiate very slightly in meaning.
This narrative illustrates the idea of a divide between the sexes that continues even into the meeting rooms at work. The words weird and strange are synonyms, therefore, confirming her claim that there are small differences. However, the words mom and husband have a bigger difference, that imply the societal roles that men and women play that cause this divide. She begins with an anecdotal tone to evoke interest in the reader by recalling an adolescent memory that immediately takes the reader back to his or her past, provoking some type of feeling.
With this historical narrative, Quindlen also introduces one of the greater metaphors of the piece, which is the waxed dance floor that represents the divide. The employment of the self analysis is used to impart the ultimate question: Even though the memory ended in the first few paragraphs, personal narratives are still used throughout the piece, not necessarily to create common ground between the audience and author like the memory had, but to add to the maternal tone.
She explains this story not with a contemptful tone, but with a tone of acceptance, like she already knew the men in her life would not understand. With the short sentences, there is no room for inferences; it is what it is. The amaryllis bulb anecdote answers the question of is the great divide between the sexes crossable, with a no, but that is only limited to her generation. In the first two paragraphs of this essay, Anna Quindlen uses the metaphor of a dance floor to convey this divide.
She establishes a nostalgic tone by making the readers recall the first "boy girl party" they had. The readers recall the nervousness and awkwardness of that first encounter.
She uses the word "chasm" to describe the empty floor and space between the two sexes. She repeats the metaphor of the dance floor and the "chasm" over and over again in this essay to really emphasize the great divide between men and women. She uses this metaphor to make the divide more tangible. If she does not use it, it would be more difficult to get her point across.
She would have to use more abstract words and phrases to describe the divide. That would make it difficult to see how obvious this divide actually is. Anna Quindlen also connects this divide to her children and friends. She discusses how her friend and she talk over the phone about things their husbands did She discusses how her son is quickly learning the idea of "him and her" She uses these to examples to connect to a greater audience.
She mentions her son to show how young people start learning the divide between the sexes. She mentions her friend to show that the divide continues even after marriage. Quindlen uses a nostalgic tone, a tangible metaphor, and real life examples to show how relevant the battle between the sexes really is.
Quindlen does so by introducing her reader to a familiar scenario, one that they might call upon with bashful embarrassment and fond memories—our first boy-girl party. Quindlen next uses slightly contradicting statements to show the reader the complexities of crossing the great divide.
She first interjects with a statement to affirm her metaphor as an accurate representation of the real life chasm between male and females in paragraph 3. Moreover, Quindlen then examines the complexities with comparing the two sexes, the point of the previous contradictions was to further attest to this comparison.
She exhaults that although men and women are fundamentally alike, they are in the most simple terms…different. She then presents the reader with 3 personal examples to attest to the simple facts of life that show how naturally different male and females are.
She begins her essay with an experience that everyone has had happen to them at one point or another in their lives. It is strictly an essay that analyzes the question, how do you cross the divide between the sexes?
This makes the essay much more effective because it views the divide as a whole and not just from one side. Both males and females can read and understand the point of this essay equally because of this. Once again this parallel establishes her neutrality on the subject. The metaphor of a coed dance paints a picture of the divide Anna is trying to get her reader to see and understand, the physical divide. The metaphor of the dance physically occurring refers to the fact that males and females can indeed interact and come to understand each other.
This is the dance without division Quindlen is talking about, the physical and psychological divide between the two, different gendered kids was crossed and no longer existent. The use of personal experience is a device that Quindlen uses to further explain that a physical and psychological separation between males and females is evident. These women do not mentally relate to their husbands, making it hard to cross the divide from women to men or men to women.
Lastly, Quindlen uses personal pronouns and talks in the first person to draw her reader in and make the reader feel like he or she is experiencing the problem as well. The rhetorical devices Anna Quindlen uses helps her argue her point, the point in which there is a physical and psychological divide between males and females.
In her essay Between the Sexes, A Great Divide, Anna Quindlen writes to demonstrate the great division between the male sex and the female sex that has continuously been presented in society. Immediately she begins with a recollection of first time boy-girl parties.
Quindlen does this in order for the reader to inspect their own lives to see if there is a barrier between sexes. She then begins to show how she sees this divide in sexes in her life by using real life situations concerning the people in her life.
Quindlen describes current relationships between herself, her sons and her husband, her son and people of the opposite sex, as well as her friend and her husband to present the fact that the pressing issue of the divide between the sexes is indeed still an ongoing issue in our present society.
The use of recollection, a nostalgic tone, a metaphor of the great divide, and the current relationships between males and females in her life demonstrates the ongoing division between the sexes. Anna Quindlen's purpose for writing "Between the Sexes, A Great Divide," was to describe the gender gap between males and females present in society from early on in life.
Writing in the first person, she pulls the reader in to recalling memories from their childhood, and further expresses her point that this communication gap is felt by everyone. She used the metaphor of "The Great Divide" to portray the vastness of the problem and to show how widespread it is.
Her first three paragraphs serve to invoke memories and emotions within the reader, causing inevitable nostalgia. She uses the "first boy-girl party" as her main scene to demonstrate the first gap-crossing because this is a common memory in that all readers will remember and can relate to. After providing the readers with a personal reflection, she poses the question: She closes her piece with her "modern dance;" she talks about her son, how he is learning about the significance of "him and her" , and how his best friend is a girl.
She emphasizes that her son, while aware of the gap between the sexes, doesn't focus on it, which is how Quindlen believes the world should operate. Creating a bond with the reader over shared experiences, the author is better able to convey her question of crossing the divide with the reader in her shoes.
The author also interposes anecdotes of examples from her life as in conversations on the phone with friends, the amaryllis bulb, and her walks through the supermarket with her son to connect the issue of the great divide to contemporary time and how this gulf is alive even to this day. By touching on memories, whether happy or sad, Quindlen evokes relatable emotions out of her reader.
She uses the memories of a shared experience in order to convey her own thoughts. Each of these words have a physical aspect to them. In reality, one can see a chasm, one can see an empty space, one can find a trapdoor, and one can physically enjoy and experience the ocean.
These visible objects are used in order to provide the reader with a clear image in her head. Another way Quindlen communicates this belief is by relating gender relationships to a dance shared between a male and a female.