Shutterstock A friend of mine told me an interesting story recently about a girl she knows who thought she met the perfect guy. He graduated from Yale. He has a great job. And most importantly, he treated her well. However, despite having it all together in almost every area of his life, he was…how do I say this? Well, he was subpar in the sack. Sorry to say it in such a harsh way, but clearly that is the perfect way to describe the sex. How do I know?
She broke up with the poor fella over it. According to my friend, her girlfriend liked the guy a lot, but she could not overlook the fact that there was a level of passion missing from their relationship. They had been dating for less than a year, and even though things started off nicely, slowly, she started to have that feeling. However, as months passed, there was no more avoiding it: Eventually, she had to say something not by telling him how bad he was, but by saying that she wanted to spice things up.
So they tried different things, different moves, and different places. She put on a good front in the bedroom while she could, moaning and pretending that she was getting her world rocked, and her boots knocked. The romance was there, but the passion? So she went looking… With that in mind, I am wondering just how important is the passion in a relationship to you?
For me, it is important—but it is not that doggone important. I am a naive believer in the idea that if you speak openly about how you feel or what you would like in your relationship and in your bedroom , changes can happen. Tricks can be tried. Lingerie can be worn. The passion can come alive again. Maybe it is best to not string someone along while you tell all your friends how wack that someone is in bed.
However, in this particular case, this woman honestly thought the grass would be greener on the other side. So she went looking, found a new guy, dated him for a little while, and then realized she wanted out.
After exiting that situation, she realized that she may have messed up big time with the man she left behind because of unsatisfying sex. Or is a lack of passion in a relationship, specifically in the bedroom, something you cannot ignore?