I myself believed I would never find myself in such an embarrassing situation. In my naive confidence, I believed my magical vagina could erect even the most timid of dicks. I was percent sure that if there was any problem, it would be with the man's dick, not my pussy.
But when I experienced severe vaginal dryness during a hookup for the first time ever, I felt like I finally got a taste of the mortification men can feel.
It can also leave the owner of said vagina and her partner in penetration feeling humiliated, subpar, and entirely unsexy. As I lay in bed after my dry vagina incident, which was reminiscent of the kind of bad sex you have at band camp with a clarinet player, a thousand questions ran through my mind: The man in question was surely attractive.
His dick was spectacular, and I was totally turned on. This being my first experience with dryness, I wondered if I had some strange vagina disease. Nancy owns a parakeet and collects shells. Looking into my issue though, it turns out my fears were entirely irrational … but not uncommon. Vaginal dryness is something any woman can experience, and it can be caused by several factors, all of them beyond my control and none of which qualify me for a TLC special. On the other hand, a mouth-watering hunk of sexmeat is typically credited with the super-soaking of vaginas.
Another big reason behind a sandpaper pussy is hormones. Just like everything else pertaining to our genitalia, hormones are in control, and in this case, we have estrogen to blame. According to the American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, a decrease in estrogen levels can lead to a decrease in vaginal lubrication. Most often, this happens in the few days before your period, just after ovulation, but it also occurs during menopause, pregnancy and any other physiological event characterized by a drop in estrogen.
Even if your estrogen levels are totally normal, there are still plenty of other non-hormonal factors that can affect our self-lubing processes as well.
Oftentimes medications we take like oral contraceptives or hygiene products we use body wash, soap, etc. Even douching, a process intended to better our vaginas, can be harmful to its lubrication.
In addition to cutting down on douching, your vagina could also benefit from cutting down on alcohol. A lot of women may feel they need a little inebriation inspiration before jumping into bed with a guy, but keep in mind that getting your buzz on could mean a total buzzkill in the sheets. The silent vagina killer. Like any twenty-something living paycheck to paycheck in a big city, I experience a normal amount of stress. Stress management is key to several physical and mental health issues, and vaginal dryness can be added to that list.
Interestingly, researchers have found that when you eat certain foods high in phytoestrogens plant-based estrogen like apples, cherries and legumes, vaginal lubrication levels stay more consistent. Women with diets high in these compounds experience get wet easier, get wet more often, and report higher levels of lubrication that women with less balanced diets.
As I discovered, the extra two seconds it would have taken to lube up would have been infinitely less awkward than the 20 minutes of vaguely painful dry sex I had to deal with.
Coconut oil is a great option because of its natural warmth and silkiness, but silicone or weed lube works great too.