Shutterstock By Neffi Walker There is no visual more horrifying for me than catching my child in the middle of a sexual act in our home. My son has a beautiful girlfriend who I adore. They have been dating for a while, and I understand how it is to be a year-old with raging hormones. There is another rule: This is the second time I caught my son and his girlfriend in the act. I lost my mind and threatened to throw everyone out for not obeying the rules.
Sexual behavior can be animalistic and reckless or done with feelings of love, longevity and respect. I am more of the if-you-have-time-to-hang-out-then-you-have-time-for-work-and-school mom.
I am not comfortable knowing that my son is having sex in his room. I called him into my room the next day to find out why he made this poor decision once again. This is how the conversation went: As a parent I have to show restraint even in difficult times, because I would want you to think before you speak. You are apologizing to me because I broke the rules? Speaking of control, are you in love with your girlfriend?
I understand that you want to get it on and be very physical due to your hormones raging out of control. But most women see sex differently than men. Your girlfriend loves you; she was still googly-eyed yesterday while I was cussing you both out. She traveled over here to see you and displayed every action indicating she is very interested in you.
If you are having sex with her without your heart in it, then do her a favor and stop immediately. What are you talking about? Do you understand that statement? Women are sensitive creatures who, for the most part, have a direct connection between the vagina and their heart. It is your responsibility as a man to spend your time with those you want to really spend your time with.
It is irresponsible and it hurts women. Sex should couple emotion and love; it should be done with thought. I will be disappointed if I spent all this time acting like Mother Teresa around you to find out you are an ultimate whore. I understand; I got you. It was the first conversation I had with him about feelings and what to do with them and how to manage them with sex. After I spoke to him, I felt like this should have been something I spoke about all along as I do with my daughter.
Raising thoughtful young men who are sexually responsible creates men who have a slimmer chance of treating women like a pieces of meat. That is what I wish for him.
What do you think about your children having sex in your house? What message are you sending to them while allowing them freedom to express and grow? I would love to know!