She wants to leave, and has made it clear she isn't interested in sex — but Nick has other ideas. What do you want? According to him, she eventually agreed to have sex. Afterwards, he says, the woman was upset and withdrawn, leaving without saying a word. Nick — an active member of the online pick-up community — later shared how he pressured the woman into bed by writing a "lay report".
The terminology is simple: Get laid, write a report, then post it to a closed Facebook group for like-minded men around the world to see. Supplied Nick's explicit retelling is accompanied by an image of the woman taken as she gets dressed. Her back is facing the camera and it isn't clear if she knows she is being photographed. The account shines a disturbing light on attitudes towards consent , and has sparked a warning from Australia's eSafety Commissioner Julie Inman Grant.
Despite the fact the woman's face is not visible, Ms Inman Grant said the post amounted to image-based abuse, or what is commonly known as revenge porn, though it is not always motivated by revenge. Pictures, sex videos shared The ABC has seen dozens of reports, which often include images of women members claim to have had sex with, along with potentially humiliating details of their actions during private encounters. In some posts the women are clearly identifiable, while in others their faces have been obscured.
Images and videos sometimes suggest women don't know they're being filmed. Supplied Most posts take steps to censor explicit nudity, though many feature images of women in various states of undress or performing sex acts. In many lay reports, images of women's dating app profiles are offered up for discussion, often with little effort made to protect their identities. Using a second Facebook account, Nick is understood to have posted a graphic video of a woman performing oral sex on him.
When the video was removed from Facebook, he began sending it to members via private message. The same group hosts several other graphic posts made by Australian men, and the angle of the images and videos in some posts suggest the women are unaware of the camera's presence. But some posts seen by the ABC chronicle the use of tactics that border on aggressive and manipulative, if not criminal. When one explicit video was taken down from Facebook, Nick began sharing it privately.
Supplied Commonly-known approaches used in the pick-up community include "negging", which involves using backhanded compliments and veiled insults to supposedly drive a woman's desire for validation.
Pick-up artists also discuss ways to overcome "LMR", or last-minute resistance, and attempt to isolate women from their friends soon after first speaking to them. The tactics can be seen being put into practice in "infield" videos produced by members of the community. In the videos, women are secretly filmed while men wearing hidden microphones hit on them in public. Evita March, who has studied online behaviour and mate selection as a psychology professor at Federation University in Victoria said the behaviour was disconcerting.
Ms Inman Grant said that too showed a serious disregard for women's privacy. Facebook is partnering with a small Australian Government agency to prevent sexual or intimate images being shared without the subject's consent.
Find out how it works. In some global Facebook groups, men go so far as to harass women they've never met for perceived sights against fellow members. In one post, a Brisbane man boasted of harassing a woman in the US, after a fellow group member posted a screenshot of her rejecting his advances via text, along with her username on dating site Plenty of Fish [PoF].
In another case, a screenshot of a woman's Tinder profile was posted alongside an advertisement for her photography business, complete with an email address and contact number. The image was posted with the caption "if anyone wants to [message] her".
The pick-up community in Australia has courted controversy before, usually due to the tactics some members advocate. In Julien Blanc of pick-up company Real Social Dynamics was kicked out of the country, in part because of a video where he suggested approaching women and grabbing women by the throat.
Similarly in Jeff Allen, who was also associated with Real Social Dynamics, had his visa cancelled by then Immigration Minister Peter Dutton who labelled his seminars as "repugnant". Promise of sex a drawcard for community Ms Inman Grant said women who believed images were being shared without their consent on social media were best advised to contact the site first.
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