Wiccan Sex This is an interior page of the Spells and Witchcraft. If you have come here directly bypassing the adult content warning please be aware that this material is for adults only viewing by persons under the age of 18 is strictly forbidden. If you are healthy in body, mind, and spirit you probably want a rich and fulfilling sex life.
Sex is dirty, what bad girls do and what can only lead to hardship unless sanctified by the sacrament of marriage.
If you are a male you were probably told not to associate with "bad girls". But that is a lie. Juliet was thirteen years old. But today we have to be more careful.
Having said that, a witch is not bound by puritanical repression in this day and age for now at least. And the whole of the law is: Do what you will, long as it harms none.
In other words, just do it. That goes double for a person in authority. Never allow anyone to force you in any way to have sex. Having said that, a witch is above all a healer. Mercy sex is not only allowed--as long as it harms none--but encouraged. Especially some of you hunky men out there. Go for a ride with a woman a few pounds overweight.
Sex is incredibly healing. So, when a chance comes to soar with eagles or stoop to help an injured bird, take it. In the end, the things we regret most are the things we never did. It's all up to you and no other. At least as a solitary witch. However, in some covens sex is part of the ritual, though not mandatory or even typical. Even the fact that many witches practice skyclad naked is a recent addition. Hey, people can make up anything they want--and often do--but it never makes a lasting imprint on the real world.
There are presently millions of people all over the world who subscribe to the ideas presented in Gardner's books. So he must have been hooked into something. Traditionally, the Goddess then lies on the floor with arms and legs outstretched in the form of a pentagram.
Sex is performed in the manner preferred by the chosen couple, though usually the interaction is highly charged--often taking on a life of it's own. One of those times when the whole is far greater than the sum of its parts. However, the tradition dates from an age where woman were rarely sexually liberated. A Great Rite that generates sexual energies using a balance between the male and female energies can be found at The Great Rite.
After all, the ancient Gods and Goddesses were a highly sexed Beings, the stuff of legends. Hades abducted Persephone to the underworld for six months of the year-- just imagine. Their sex creates and sustains the visible Universe. Diana maintained an image of chastity but often seduces human lovers of both sexes. And then there was Eos, the Goddess of Hot.
The Kama Sutra wasn't just a sex manual but a sex magyc. In fact, there are hundreds of Gods and Goddesses dedicated to sex. For an extensive list visit http: You'll be able to use your back button to get past the age eighteen screening. But it wasn't just partying--though that's as good a reason as any.
There was a divine purpose for our deities to engage in sex. Sexual ritual was needed to assure fertility and plenty for humanity. The Great Goddess, is first and foremost a Goddess of fertility. So, sex is a good thing, a great thing, a necessary thing. Do you get the impression I'm in favor of sex? Where do some religions get that God is against sex?
And while social biologists may contend that we only love it so that we can propagate the species, it didn't have to be optional. Sex could have been mandatory like eating, breathing, or sleeping. But instead it's something we do by choice not because we have to. Most do not perform group rituals skyclad but prefer robs. Sometimes it's just as well. Personally, I chose to perform my private rituals skyclad and public ones in either a white, black or burgundy robe.
The choice is up to you. As for the Great Rite, I prefer that to be with someone I am already involved with. But I will share a secret with you. Some were only vaguely aware that I practice. What seems to happen with me is that my body is taken over by the Goddess to the point where I will have to think hard to remember what actually occurred.
Another possibility is taking the charge of Pan or Eros: Drawing down the Sun. What happens is that during the experience my mind seems to be elsewhere and all I can recall is the incredible intensity of the experience.
Your own person can snap back so abruptly it breaks the bond in a manner not unlike pulling a Band-Aid off a wound leaving your private self as separate as before you began. Best to let things cool down slowly. If you are sleeping together the Goddess will leave you in the night. If you have to get up and continue your day wait until your shower or when you are in the car. My experience is that once your lucky lover has hooked up with a God or Goddess in your flesh they never get enough.
Another concern is when both partners take the charge. It became a problem for me once. I was living with a practicing witch who took the Charge, as did I. But everything else between us was wrong, as was the sex when we were just ourselves. So much of the rest of the relationship came to bed with us that it got in the way.
However, we are not always in a position to have sex with a partner. Most people masturbate to relieve the tension until something better comes along. But that misses the point. I know it seems a bit presumptions but they love it as much as you will. In addition, the practice will keep you loose and limber for the next encounter you have with a fellow mortal. Of course, by that time you may not want mere mortal flesh, certainly aren't going to jump through hoops to get it.
One day you will wake up and you will be in charge of your libido and not the other way around. I absolutely recommend this: That simple idea could end world hunger and more, it could end the eternal struggle between men and women. If we truly came together out of love instead of need what a difference that would make. And the best part is that you will be learning an essential truth of magycal power: No one can do magyc that can't focus. But how do you learn to focus?
Stare at rocks all day? Fortunately, the very same focus so essential to magyc is the same focus needed for satisfying sex, with or without a partner. But I think it's better alone--at least when it comes to practicing focus--because you get to set the pace, amongst other things.
So learning to control your libido instead of it controlling you will also help you focus your magycal workings. It's the same thing. Magyc, like sex, is in the doing. Let me repeat that: And no amount of theory or research can substitute for the real thing.
In this way, sex, like nothing else, teaches us the focus needed to do magyc. Specifically, focus means being in the absolute present. With sex we usually start out in our heads with a near total lack of focus. We're gnawing on past events and worrying the future--everywhere but Now.
I'm always amazed how my little lamb can be so quiet all day, sleeping, forgotten, and then become so monumental and all consuming--taking over my entire Being during sex.