This article is NOT about foreplay. You thought it was. There are 4 parts to a sexual experience. Foreplay Orgasm Release We as a society are so focused on the physical pleasures of sexuality that we often forget about what makes sex so mindblowing. The connectedness and raw intimacy that the moment of orgasm brings us to. The first 3 parts of a sexual experience are primarily physical. Focusing on pillow talk allows you to reach a new level of romantic sexuality that includes all the ways in which partners experience each other.
This can be harder than it sounds. The physical intensity that we feel before and during sex often override the romantic and intellectual. Exhaustion takes priority over conversation. The moments after orgasm can hardly be put into words. Absolute bliss, bewilderment, satiation and an undescribable openness. Despite how sweaty and smelly and are — your partner looks absolutely beautiful to you.
This is a defined chemical reaction in your brain. Your body reacts to orgasm with a flood of oxytocin and you have about 10 minutes of no stress and no fear. This happens for a reason. Of course no yin would be complete without a yan, it is also a moment where you could plant the seed of fear and rejection. In order to understand the importance of pillow talk, you have to look at it as a moment where your relationship comes full circle.
That sexual experience started when you caught your partners eye, you started to flirt and the hilariously primitive game of mating began. Flirting is all about the push-and-pull between 2 people. We drop a slight compliment and wait with body throbbing anticipation for it to be picked up and returned before offering another breadcrumb leading to the bedroom.
We give only as much as we can handle being rejected. Those moments of release after a great bedroom tumble are where our questions of anticipation and rejection are answered.
Subconsciously when a guy is through and he rolls over and falls asleep, it can leave a deep seeded feeling of rejection that is hard to shake. Even if both partners orgasm and your man is madly in love with you, the absence of that connection after sex can be powerful. The way oxytocin reacts to estrogen, is far more exaggerated than its reaction to testosterone.
Woman simply crave pillow talk more than men. But here are some reasons to consider these 10 minutes the best part of a romp. For 1 Night Stands The moment the sexual cycle comes full circle, is the moment it starts again. Pillow Talk and Flirtation are indistinguishable. We are constantly changing and evolving and this is a great time to get to know your partner as a new person, not based on what they did that day, but how they are feeling and what makes them interesting.
A renewed interest and deeper trust means better sex. That sense of trust after your questions have been put to ease means deeper, more intimate and all around better sex. So a quick recap: And you can have all of these things in or outside of a defined relationship.