Most surveys have answers that can be computer scored. I've never found these to be particularly useful. This has netted a tremendous amount of information which is nuanced and complete--but a total nightmare to do anything with. Also, while comparing answers to individual questions can be productive, what I find most interesting is to consider each survey in its entirety.
I've also found that surveys completed by people in their 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond tend to have more textured responses--which speaks to the impact that time and experience can have on our understanding of our sexual selves. I have also found that women tend to answer in complete sentences and sometimes entire paragraphs, while men tend to answer in partial sentences and sometimes monsyllabic grunts. Over the next couple of months, I'll be posting some of the thousands of surveys that visitors to my website have have done.
Click here to see the complete surveys. The following woman's responses are much more complete than most, and she's had sex with more partners than most women. However, this doesn't mean she has had more sex than someone who has only been with one or two partners. Three of the many things I found interesting on her survey were that she isn't focused on having orgasms, she doesn't like to masturbate very much, and while few healthcare providers will tell you this, her experience with hormonal birth control is not terribly uncommon.
As for masturabtion, it's been clear from many survey responses that some women who are very amped sexually don't masturbate often, others do. So the frequency with which women masturbate says nothing about a woman's feelings about sex. Also, some women masturbate more when they are in relationship, others less. How old are you?
I've considered myself bisexual since age 20 or so, when I realized that I both find females sexually attractive and romantically lovable; however, most of my long term relationships have been with males. What country are you living in? I specify because the city of Portland might as well be a different country from rural Appalachia.
If you have a male partner, is his penis circumcised cut or uncircumcised uncut? I have mostly had partners with circumcised penises; I have had only two uncircumcised partners, neither of whom were born in the USA. South Africa and Wales If you have had intercourse, how satisfying is it usually for you? I have trouble reaching orgasm during sex in general, although I have a few ex-partners and current occasional lovers with whom I usually orgasm; our physical and emotional rapport is deep enough that it simply works.
That said, I nearly always find the intimacy and physical contact enjoyable, satisfying, and worthwhile, with or without orgasm. It took me years to reach that mindset, however, as way too much emphasis is placed on orgasm. If you've had different partners, has intercourse felt better with certain ones? If so, please offer your theory about why.
The first time I ever managed to orgasm during penetrative sex, it was with the male partner with the smallest penis I've personally experienced. I think it was a combo: In general, I find an average to slightly-above-average-sized penis to be the most appealing, and to give the most pleasure There's an emotional euphoria that comes with loving a partner, and it can equal or exceed the physical rush of orgasm. When you are having intercourse, do you sometimes need to make a conscious effort to stay sexually excited and in the moment?
Sometimes, I recognize that my body is unlikely to reach orgasm in a session for a variety of reasons. Then, I'll try to refocus on the good sensations I am experiencing and giving my partner, rather than trying to "reach the goal" of orgasm. In the past, I would sometimes push so hard trying to reach that goal that I'd drive myself to the point of tears of frustration - never a good thing in the middle of sex.
Particularly during receiving oral sex, sensation sometimes fades, and while it feels good, it doesn't feel "as good as it should", and I then begin to "get in my head" about whether my partner is enjoying themselves, and I'm eager to move on to other activities. If your partners have shaved, trimmed or waxed anywhere below the neck, please describe what and where, and if it had any impact on their desirability.
Most of my partners have had little body hair generally; most have also at least trimmed their pubic hairs to be "less unruly". Unless the amount or texture of their body hair is interruptive and overwhelming, I am indifferent: I want them to be comfortable with their own body, whatever that looks like. What are the best and worst parts of giving a male partner oral sex? I really enjoy going down on a man.
The best part - second to his reactions and sounds of enjoyment - is the feel of the shape and texture of the head and shaft against my tongue and lips, sensual - like eating fruit or chocolate. Some males have a "stronger" taste than others to their seminal fluids, and that can be unpleasant, although it's uncommon that it's that pungent. Can you recall when you first "discovered your clitoris" as having potential for pleasure?
If so, please describe the process and what your thoughts were. I was 18, and my first lover encouraged me to begin masturbating. I had touched myself as a child and early adolescent, and had been intensely shamed for it, so there were emotional issues I had to deal with before I could start over, so to speak. I remember being amazed - I had seen the anatomical drawings, of course, but had never connected that with my own body in reality, and had no idea that those intense sensations could be produced from stimulating such a tiny spot.
I think of that time as a reawakening of my body, of the very beginnings of my being happy and feeling attractive in my own skin. After my first self-induced orgasm finally!
I realized that I had been having "wet dreams " for years while asleep! I had never even heard of other females this happened to. It was a revelation. In the years since, I have discovered that my visible, palpable clitoris is relatively small, being quite pearl-like in fact. I have also found that more intense stimulation is not only not conducive to orgasm, but downright unpleasant. Is it possible that size has something to do with that, as more nerves are concentrated in an even smaller area than usual?
Or, perhaps, a larger clitoris is less sheltered by surrounding tissues, and becomes somewhat desensitized to stimulation compared to a more "hidden" one?
I wonder, and can't find any research on this. When you were growing up, did you ever put your fingers inside your vagina to explore what was there?
I did, and couldn't make much sense of it. I hit puberty young physical changes starting at 8, menstruation at barely 9 and I know I touched myself even before that; I couldn't even guess an accurate age. I knew it felt interesting, and eventually knew it was supposed to feel good, but there was always a HUGE amount of guilt and shame involved. I thought I was going to hell, and I was a freak, and a terrible person for doing this evil , nasty thing.
I don't remember where those ideas came from, but I know I believed them fervently. Which would be worse: My father has never acknowledged me as an adult, sexual being, and we don't communicate about those topics at all.
I'm kinky and bi, and he watches Fox News Do you shave, wax or exfoliate between your legs? I shave my bikini area and usually my labia majora, but only trim the hair above my vulva.
I don't like shaving completely, neither aesthetically nor for comfort reasons. I think it looks plastic and fake, or immature and childish to have no hair at all there, male or female. I shave about once a week, sometimes twice; more often produces irritation. If you have hooked up with someone for only a night, what was the sex like?
A couple of times, and usually fairly horrible. If the initial connection was deep enough that the sex was good, our association usually developed into a longer relationship - wherein the sex got even better. If your partner s use condoms, do the condoms impact the sensation you receive from intercourse? If so, please describe in what ways. I am allergic to latex, and so use polyurethane or polyisoprene condoms instead.
However, unless I'm in a long-term fluid-bonded relationship, that's the deal. Considering your last couple of partners, how satisfied were you with their ability to last during intercourse too long, too short, just right. How long feels just right for you?
My last few partners lasted, if anything, too long. About what percentage of the time do you have an orgasm during intercourse?
The first time I have intercourse with a lover, it's rare for me to orgasm: In further sessions, that figure rises to around percent, and with a very few people perhaps three of the thirty-some lovers I've had it was nearly every time, percent.
If you have orgasms during intercourse, do they happen from thrusting alone, or does it require fingers on your clitoris or grinding against his pubic bone? The two most successful and consistent methods for me to orgasm during penis-in-vagina PIV intercourse are: If you have hooked up with a person for only one night, how comfortable or uncomfortable is it when you see them in a social situation, at work or in class?
Generally, it's not uncomfortable, and the flirting continues, with perhaps more of a "knowing" undertone. How do you feel about the fluids your vagina makes--too little, too much, just right, or I don't produce as much lubrication now as I did in my early twenties, when additional lube was entirely optional or unnecessary for vaginal sex. Now, supplemental moisture is nearly always needed for sex, and occasionally for daily comfort, so I definitely wish I made more.
If you use marijuana , does it impact your experience of sex? If so, in what ways? The few times I've tried, the effects I experience are similar to that of standing up too fast and getting light-headed for a short period of time, followed by a dull headache. It's not a drug I saw any benefits from. If you masturbate, 1. I might masturbate once a month or so if I'm single, although the frequency does tend to increase during the middle of my menstrual cycle.
If I'm in a sexual relationship, the frequency increases as well, perhaps to as often as once a week.