Here are the facts: The study found that 6 percent of normal weight teens had sex before age 13, as compared with 11 percent of overweight teens and 15 percent of obese teens.
And 39 percent of normal weight teens reported having sex with more than three partners as compared with 45 percent of overweight teens and 47 percent of obese teens. The study found that girls with weight issues were almost 20 percent less likely use condoms than thinner girls, and more than 30 percent less likely to use other methods of contraception.
Okay, I am going to get really tired of putting quotes around everything. Because they belong there, and now is not the time when I am going to get into an extended Fat Acceptance explanation. Just take it from me. These girls are having more sex, earlier, and with more partners.
Another factor could be low self-esteem and poor body image, which have been correlated with obesity in other studies. According to this analysis, the correlation goes like this: So, thus the solution is to prevent the fatness, and therefore prevent the low self-esteem and thus the sexy time! Okay, MSNBC and Margaret Villiers and all the countless pundits who will surely weigh in on how horrible it is that these poor young fatties, in addition to the indignity of being fat, have to suffer the horrors of sexual activity quick!
Someone call Caitlin Flanagan! I am a veritable expert, having been both a slightly fat teenage girl and a bonafide fat adult, and also someone who has engaged in sexual activity throughout these times! Unless you are very naturally thin, people around you will constantly be worrying about your weight well before you even hit puberty.
I remember this well. When you are in the pre-teen era, you spend a lot of time looking to adults to figure out how you should behave, because you are just beginning to become aware of changes in your body that mean you will be an adult within a few years! And guess what — the adults around you are constantly obsessing about their own weight. Except you think, wait?
I have compared myself to friends that I have? And I am, in fact, bigger than some of them? Here is what you learn very early, as a young woman prone to fatness, even before puberty: My body is bad. My body is disgusting. My body is something for me to fight against. My body will not cooperate with my desire to be thin.
My body is a disappointment to the people around me. I hate how all these studies and articles just assume as true that it is the natural order of things that fat girls will feel bad about themselves, as if this is, in fact, the proper way to view yourself when you are fat. No, this is not natural. This does not come from looking in the mirror. Girls are inculcated with messages that fatness is bad and that their bodies are their enemies. Loving your body is not option. That fatness-shame, combined with the puberty-shame of our puritanical, anti-woman, anti-sex culture, means that at the onset of puberty fat girls undergo deep, deep dissociation with their bodies.
This happens to all kinds of girls, but especially fat girls. And those message are working on the other girls, who think that they will devalue their bodies if they get intimate with boys. Ever read asshole rich people complaining about how poor people are so fat because they eat too much junk food?
Because you know what, when your life is miserable, fattening and sugary food is just about one of the only sensual pleasures that you can actually afford. Being a young fat girl, sex is like that. Your body has been the source of so much unhappiness, so much shame, that, oh my god—here is something you can do with your body that makes you feel good and alive and yes?
Can we talk about how we automatically assume that having more than three partners as a teenage girl is automatically a bad thing? You get slut-shamed out the wazoo for doing it. And then you do, in fact, feel awful, because slut-shaming sucks. But you also get slut-shamed for not doing it. As has been aptly covered by every feminist everywhere, you can end up a slut for completely perplexing reasons, like because you have a single mom, or because you have big breasts, or because of your race or ethnicity, or because of a rumor that might not even be close to true.
And look, I can say from experience, if enough people are calling you a slut, you start to believe it. What do you know about what a slut is?
And you are hitting puberty, and having all these sexual thoughts about boys, and thinking, okay, people are saying I am a slut so OBVIOUSLY this is not normal and there must be something deeply, deeply wrong with me. It chaps my hide something fierce. Actually wanting sex or sexual activity? No, it must be the boys who are making them do it. Puberty happens because of a rapid hormonal shift in your body.
Those hormones do all kinds of things: Yes, so the girls who go through puberty earlier will start feeling sexual desire earlier than other girls. In short, they are so completely wrong and this whole enterprise is bogus. As one of my favorite ladybloggers and personal friend Gayle Force said to me in chat: It is creepy and morbid. I think the articles are secretly hoping to find how it fucks up all the girls, and then they are miserable and deranged.
This was written by Silvana. Posted on Thursday, May 27, , at 2: Follow comments here with the RSS feed. Both comments and trackbacks are currently closed.