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For example, he may be enduring a great deal of stress at work, and coming home to a relaxing massage can help to lift his mood and release built up tension.
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Plus, massage technique improves tremendously the more often you do it. Simply begin by learning just one or two of the techniques. Some women find it helpful to think back to the last time you visited a spa and had a massage you thoroughly enjoyed. Then start attempting to recreate that experience with your partner. If you want to give your man back-arching, toe-curling, screaming orgasms that will keep him sexually obsessed with you, then you can learn these sex techniques in my private and discreet newsletter.
You'll also learn the 5 dangerous mistakes that will ruin your sex life and relationship. Benefits of Massage Many of the benefits of massage are well known. But did you know massage has proven effective at reducing symptoms of arthritis, anxiety, depression, cancer, fibromyalgia, and more [ 3 , 4 , 5 , 6 , 7 , 8 , 9 , 10 ]? Circulation can also improve with massage [ 11 , 12 ]. Of course, getting a massage can relax you. Massage can boost your mood and immune system, too.
Massage can also increase energy levels [ 13 ]. Giving one can make you feel more relaxed and improve anxiety and depression, too [ 14 , 15 ]! Temporary pain can occur if you pinch any body part, and massaging too deep can leave lingering soreness.
Try not to manipulate any limbs unnaturally or forcefully and be careful with existing injuries. However, massage is unlikely to cause a stroke [ 19 ]. Getting a massage releases waste products from muscles into the body and in extreme but unlikely events, it can create a poisoning known as rhabdomyolysis [ 20 ], which is one of the causes of post-massage soreness and illness [ 21 ].
Finally, massage candles can add ambiance, but make sure to test the heat of the wax before use. These candles use wax that melts at a low temperature, but it can still be quite warm. Pour from higher up to allow the wax to cool as it falls. Check it out here to learn how. Fortunately, injury from massage is typically rare [ 22 ]. Setting The Mood Think, just for a moment, about the last time you enjoyed a professional massage.
The atmosphere was free of clutter, and there was probably a light but refreshing scent in the room which you noticed the moment you arrived, right? The lighting in most spas is not exceptionally bright, even in the reception area; however, the room where the massage is to be performed often features dim lighting, pleasant scents, and a conducive atmosphere.
In other words, you begin settling into a state of relaxation before even encountering the massage therapist for the first time. The prep time should, however, reflect the meticulous concern a spa owner would take to create the appropriate atmosphere.
Music There are a number of channels on YouTube offering relaxing, instrumental music perfect for creating a spa-like atmosphere. These videos can range in length from about one hour to eight hours.
Some sites offer a wide variety of CDs, DVDs and digital downloads of relaxation music including nature sounds and ambient noise which are specifically geared toward creating the perfect, relaxing atmosphere. Of course, there are literally thousands of choices available through popular websites like Amazon, iTunes and Google Play. Lighting Having dim lighting in the room is perfect for creating a warm, cozy and ethereal atmosphere.
Setting several tealight candles around the room will provide just enough light in the room. Aromatherapy candles are also a great way to set the mood in the room, as the sense of smell is actually the most powerful of all our senses.
Looking for more ideas to set the scene? Check out our guide to tantric massage. Using this knowledge as a foundation, then, the theory behind aromatherapy is that essential oils have a pharmacological effect although no scientific proof of this has been discovered, preliminary clinical tests have yielded positive results. Essential oils can be placed in a fragrance diffuser; once a bit of heat is applied usually by a tealight candle , the oils evaporate into the air, giving off a pleasant and therapeutic fragrance.
Essential oils can also be applied directly to the skin by adding a few drops to warm bath water or via massage. Lavender Although lavender has been used for centuries to soothe minor cuts and burns, it has become exceptionally popular in recent years because of its ability to promote feelings of relaxation, to alleviate insomnia, and to relieve headache symptoms [ 23 ].
Chamomile Chamomile is a highly effective calming agent. Plus, it can help quell anxiety [ 25 ]. Vanilla Oil Arguably the most popular and most beloved among essential oils, the essential oil of vanilla is good for more than improving the taste of food.
Jasmine The seductive, floral and fruity scent derived from the essential oil of jasmine has been lauded by perfumers since ancient times. Jasmine is said to serve as an antidepressant, calming the emotions. Sandalwood is said to induce a calm, meditative state, to ease away anxiety and anger, and to promote better sleep.
Warning about essential oils: Although essential oils have plenty of benefits, they can be quite potent and irritate the skin. Because of this, you only want to use a few drops of your favorite essential oil in a carrier oil such as jojoba, coconut, almond or olive oil.
Never use more than 1 drop of essential oil per 1 teaspoon of carrier oil [ 26 ] or about 10 drops per ounce of carrier oil for adults [ 27 ]. Massage Techniques To be extremely clear, the gift of massage is one of the most powerful gifts you can give to your significant other. It will get better over time.
With each of these, your partner will lay — face down — as you work the muscles of his upper and lower back. Kneading Although not many of us make our own biscuits or other bread from scratch anymore, if you have ever had the experience of kneading the dough, this technique will be quite familiar.
Bending the wrists too far or too much can cause undue stress to your muscles which can lead to pain in the wrist later on. With stripping, the bottom hand should remain as relaxed as possible. The goal of stripping is to allow for greater pressure to be applied to the muscle itself which will help his back muscles to relax faster and more completely. The other hand, also flat with fingers together, goes immediately after the other hand, moving a little farther up or down the back.
If you find you need to apply additional pressure, consider folding your fingers inside at the knuckles but with the fingers still pressed firmly together. The reason for this is deep tissue massage targets certain trouble spots — areas that hold a great deal of tension and places where stiffness and chronic pain tend to settle.
The shoulders and shoulder blades tend to be an area where many people hold onto the greatest amount of tension. If your guy is a computer whiz and hovers over a computer keyboard all day, or if he tends to handle oversized packages all day, his shoulders may be really tense, tight and out of alignment.
To address the shoulders, start by pouring a bit of massage oil onto your palms, then rub your palms together.
By rubbing your hands together, the friction begins to heat the oil, making it more pleasant for him as well as making it easier for you to utilize.
Start by spreading the massage oil across the upper shoulder area across the trapezius muscles , rubbing your palms gently across the shoulders. You may find that you need to apply a greater amount of pressure; if so, simply place one palm down, then place your other hand on top, positioning your body so that more of your body weight is applied to the area see the section on stripping.
Knots can form from stress [ 29 ]. It is often highly effective to simply apply pressure to that area only until you begin to feel the knot breaking apart or moving. If the knotted muscles feel relatively small, you can apply pressure, using your thumbs, until the muscles begin to become more pliable. Another trick for particularly tight shoulder muscles — use a tennis ball, rolling it gently but firmly across the shoulders.
Using Hot Stones With hot stone massage, the use of a hot stone allows heat to be transmitted deeply into the muscle tissue. Combined with other massage techniques, this type of massage is quite soothing and relaxing, and allows you to provide him with a deep, relaxing massage without having to apply a great deal of effort.
It takes mere seconds to go from uncomfortably hot to visible burns that are painful to the touch. Also, never use a microwave to heat the stones; a crockpot will work well. Start with a stone in both hands, at his shoulders, then work slowly down his back muscles.
To start, keep your strokes close to either side of the spine. Once you get to the lower back, simply move the hands in opposite directions, creating a sort of oblong circle across his back, bringing the stones back toward the shoulders, finishing at the neck. With hot stones, you never want to stop at any one particular spot or muscle group, as the heat serves to penetrate the muscles. Continue moving the stones across the length of the back, lower back and shoulders until the stones become cool to the touch.
Cupping comes from ancient China [ 30 ] and is sometimes offered by massage practitioners and practiced by some kinksters. It may help relieve pain [ 31 , 32 , 33 ].
The two most common types of cupping are vacuum pump and fire [ 34 ]. Both involve placing a small cup on the skin, usually on the back but sometimes on other parts of the body, and creating suction that creates pressure [ 35 ]. Cups that attach to pumps allow you to manually vacuum air from the cups to create suction and pressure. The flame eats oxygen to create suction. Sensual Massage Although we cannot stress enough how important non-sexual touch is, whether you get it from a massage therapist or provide it to your man, sometimes an erotic massage is just what the doctor ordered.
This is the Bad Girls Bible, after all! You may also want to consider a full body massage. For a few tips on how to give him a massage that leads to something sexual, consider sitting on his buttocks as you massage away the stress from his shoulders and lower back. This just increases your physical contact, leading to greater feelings of intimacy. Discover more techniques for sensual massage.