Answered 10w ago little bit more. This advice is probably more directed at the guys, so men: Sex and lovemaking has the potential to be either the most delicious or the most dissatisfying aspect of your life.
Sex can be a way for you and your partner to open your hearts, surrender your bodies, have some fun and share the peak of ultimate pleasure together… or it can be a mostly frustrating and empty experience.
The most recent studies have shown that a staggering 1 in 3 women are turned off from sex, whereas the figure is closer to 1 in 6 for men. From the Durex Sexual Wellbeing Survey which included 26, people around the world , as well a recent Australian study, women in particular often feel that they lose interest in sex because the kind of sex on offer is not what turns them on. Want to know why? There are 2 basic, essential keys to understand if you want great sex: The big difference between the two is the pathway to great sex, which is different for men and women.
Men seek it through physical sex first. Through having sex with his woman, he opens more emotionally and connects. This hugely important difference needs to be taken into account in order for sex and lovemaking to be great for both of you. There are greater rewards for a man by delivering what his woman desires first. When your woman is truly satisfied, she opens even more, and is more than willing to grant you your wishes in return.
If he is first, the fire is usually extinguished — and she can feel it. This is a secret that very few men even know, let alone use to their advantage. Relationships that last the longest and are the most successful are those in which the woman is getting her desires fulfilled, giving the man a double win.
For most women, the emotional is indivisible from the physical, and the emotional precedes the physical. Her desire for her man is fed by feeling close to him and by his presence. Your woman wants to feel emotionally connected to you, before, during and after sex.
Take the time to sit and talk with her daily, with no distractions of TV, phones or kids. Just by taking the time to talk and listen to her, she feels closer to you, and more open to other things… like sex! They yearn to be treated as the unique, special creatures that they are. Attention and affection go a long, long, long way, guys, together with your appreciation of her, as an individual and as a woman.
Call her throughout the day to say you love her, organise a weekend away just for the two of you, surprise her with a single rose and tell her what you love about her. Try something new every week. Women never tire of you finding them attractive.
Foreplay is what builds desire in a woman. In the bedroom, women want to be warmed up first, and she would love you to explore all of her body more. And remember, foreplay begins after your last lovemaking session!
Take much more time with foreplay. Most women are tired from handling work, kids, and the endless household tasks at the end of the day. Resentment can often build if she has been left to shoulder more than a fair share of the workload. Be aware that this is very important to a woman, and a little help goes a long way.
Resentment and anger is the number one killer of passion and sexual openness for women. Offer her plenty of support around the house, and she will feel cared for by you, resulting in her being far more open to you. She also needs some time off to rejuvenate, and revive her sensual self with some of those femininely nurturing trips to the hairdresser, facials, and massages.
Even buying clothes that she feels beautiful in helps her to love who she is as a woman. Orgasms, and various types of orgasms even multiple orgasms , are another area that most women would like to explore. More complicated and variable than the male orgasm, the female orgasm can be a wonderful unfolding mystery. All orgasms are not equal for women. Through exploring and experimenting, men, too, can extend their orgasmic potential, far more than you ever thought possible.
Make it your mission to explore your orgasmic potentials together. Most women would love more playfulness, variety and adventure, just like men would. A man who is willing to create delightful experiences, both in and out of bed will win her heart far more easily. Why not both provide some fun and variety?