Why would a man want to date an older woman? These are just some of the positive aspects of dating an older woman. It is still quite typical, almost cliche to see an older man with a much younger woman. There is still a ways to go before the idea of a woman dating a man much younger than her becomes fully accepted.
It's time that men start realizing the benefits of dating older women. A lot of the time, we complain that women don't know what they want and that they're high maintenance. Your average twenty-year-old woman is energetic, ambitious and out to get things done.
Now, you take a woman in her thirties, chances are she's lived a little more. She's learned that the world isn't all it was cracked up to be, and she's less likely to be over-enthusiastic about driving twenty miles to go to dance clubs that charge a twenty dollar cover and serve cherry flavored water. This means that in exchange for peace of mind, you have to be willing to accept some of the implications that may come with dating an older woman.
More often than not, however, the advantages overwhelmingly surpass the drawbacks. The Cons Let's start with the not-so-good news.
Commitment and Biological Clocks: There's nothing wrong with a May-September relationship because a woman has as much right as a man to like someone younger. To find that perfect older woman, you might have to consider her plans to start a family.
Since she wants to date a young man, however, there might be a chance that she just wants to have fun with an energetic man without having to worry about having babies. So before jumping into a relationship, find out if she's looking to have kids right away. Along with those great years of sexual experience, some unresolved issues and excess baggage may come attached to the package and should be considered because well, life happens.
Ex-boyfriends, husbands, children, ex-step-children, pending divorces, business pressures, financial obligations, and debts can often be part of the package. You must be ready and willing to accept this reality if you are going to get romantically linked with an older woman. This is not to say that you will be asked to deal with these issues per se; rather, you must realize that an older woman generally has more to worry about than that bushy-tailed co-ed at your dorm.
One cannot deny the allure of the older woman, younger man relationship. But, this relationship remains slightly taboo, unlike the other way around, where the man is much older than the woman, which still to this day remains more widely acceptable. Like it or not, by getting involved with an older woman, you are putting yourself in a situation where the moral majority — people like your parents and boss — might frown upon you and question your decision. On the up side, you may become your buddies' hero, and they will start begging you to reveal what it's like.
In any case, people will talk. If you are secure enough in the relationship, or you actually like the attention, then by all means, proceed. While we're on the topic of what people will think, keep in mind that older women have been dubbed " cougars " and they get a bad rep. In this type of relationship, it seems the woman is often in control. Some think that a woman who dates a younger man does so because she can easily manipulate him; that the man in question will be so awestruck by her attention that he will go along with whatever she says.
The pros On to the good news: It's amazing what an extra ten years of experience can teach you. Older women don't beat around the bush they let you do that. They know exactly what they want and they know what to do to get it.
A man is terrible when it comes to taking the time and effort to figure out what a woman really wants. An older woman has learned not to waste precious time waiting for the man in the shining armor to sweep her off her feet. More often than not, an older woman has faced her insecurities and fears head on, and has dealt with them to the best of her abilities. She likely has enough life experience to know what matters and what doesn't. Consequently, she's above the petty nonsense that drives you crazy about women your own age.
An older woman has figured out what looks good on her, and knows enough about male-female relationships to not bother you with feminine trivialities that usually serve to turn men off.
Older women have the self-confidence that could only come from experience and the knowledge that they can handle whatever life throws their way. That is not to say that they never have a bad day, but merely that it's probably due to something more than the fact that they have a pimple and a party to go to that night.
An older woman's independence is a strong stress reliever for any man. This takes away some of the pressure from a man's shoulder to support the relationship i.
There are exceptions to the rule of course but generally the more professional experience she has, the more ability she has to pay for her way. Older women know how to appreciate the truer things in life. They don't play head games and don't value the materialistic ideals that are pushed through the media.
You might be happy to find out that it's possible to carry a meaningful conversation without worrying too much about discussing trivialities. You also don't have to worry about returning her home before midnight to meet a curfew.
The benefit of dating an older woman is especially apparent on vacations. They might say silly things like, "We paid all this money to be here, we should make the most of it. A man goes on vacation to drink over-priced beer while sitting in a Jacuzzi contemplating what to order next at the all-you-can-eat restaurant. Often, older women are newly divorced, and looking to have a good time. Getting involved with a man who isn't looking for a serious relationship and wants to have fun is the perfect solution.
Younger men have the stamina and carefree attitude to satisfy their need for a wild ride. So, if you're looking to learn a thing or two between the sheets, look no further than an older woman. After all, she's no longer sexually inhibited, knows what she wants, and probably has a few tricks up her sleeve. Go for it Well, I hope my little rant has helped open some minds, but most likely if you're a man, you probably weren't listening, and if you're a woman, you already know I'm full of rubbish.
I encourage most men to give this whole idea a second thought, I bet you'll save yourself a lot of headaches. In the end, it's up to you to weigh the pros and cons of such a relationship and decide if it is right for you right now.
Let's see, the prospect of mind-blowing sex with an experienced, confident woman, without the expectation of a long-term commitment — I know, it's a tough call.