Print Diagnosis By definition, you may be diagnosed with hypoactive sexual desire disorder if you frequently lack sexual thoughts or desire, and the absence of these feelings causes personal distress. Whether you fit this medical diagnosis or not, your doctor can look for reasons that your sex drive isn't as high as you'd like and find ways to help.
In addition to asking you questions about your medical and sexual history, your doctor may also: Perform a pelvic exam. During a pelvic exam, your doctor can check for signs of physical changes contributing to low sexual desire, such as thinning of your genital tissues, vaginal dryness or pain-triggering spots.
Your doctor may order blood tests to check hormone levels and check for thyroid problems, diabetes, high cholesterol and liver disorders. Refer you to a specialist. A specialized counselor or sex therapist may be able to better evaluate emotional and relationship factors that can cause low sex drive. Treatment Most women benefit from a treatment approach aimed at the many causes behind this condition.
Recommendations may include sex education, counseling, and sometimes medication and hormone therapy. Sex education and counseling Talking with a sex therapist or counselor skilled in addressing sexual concerns can help with low sex drive. Therapy often includes education about sexual response and techniques. Your therapist or counselor likely will provide recommendations for reading materials or couples' exercises. Couples counseling that addresses relationship issues may also help increase feelings of intimacy and desire.
Medications Your doctor will want to review the medications you're already taking, to see if any of them tend to cause sexual side effects. For example, antidepressants such as paroxetine Paxil and fluoxetine Prozac, Sarafem may lower sex drive. Along with counseling, your doctor may prescribe a medication called flibanserin Addyi to boost your libido. You take the pill once a day, before you go to bed. Side effects include low blood pressure, dizziness, nausea and fatigue.
Drinking alcohol or taking fluconazole Diflucan , a common medication to treat vaginal yeast infections, can make these side effects worse. Hormone therapy Dryness or shrinking of the vagina vaginal atrophy might make sex uncomfortable and, in turn, reduce your desire. Estrogen may help relieve vaginal atrophy symptoms. However, estrogen doesn't improve sexual functioning related to hypoactive sexual desire disorder.
Estrogen is available in many forms, including pills, patches, sprays and gels. Smaller doses of estrogen are found in vaginal creams and a slow-releasing suppository or ring. Ask your doctor about the risks and benefits of each form. Male hormones, such as testosterone, also play an important role in female sexual function, even though testosterone occurs in much lower amounts in women. It's not approved by the FDA for sexual dysfunction in women, but sometimes it's prescribed off-label to help lift a lagging libido.
However, the use of testosterone in women is controversial. Taking it can cause acne, excess body hair, and mood or personality changes. Lifestyle and home remedies Healthy lifestyle changes can make a big difference in your desire for sex: Regular aerobic exercise and strength training can increase your stamina, improve your body image, lift your mood and boost your libido.
Finding a better way to cope with work stress, financial stress and daily hassles can enhance your sex drive. Communicate with your partner. Couples who learn to communicate in an open, honest way usually maintain a stronger emotional connection, which can lead to better sex.
Communicating about sex also is important. Talking about your likes and dislikes can set the stage for greater sexual intimacy. Set aside time for intimacy. Scheduling sex into your calendar may seem contrived and boring.
But making intimacy a priority can help put your sex drive back on track. Add a little spice to your sex life. Try a different sexual position, a different time of day or a different location for sex.
Ask your partner to spend more time on foreplay. If you and your partner are open to experimentation, sex toys and fantasy can help rekindle your sexual desire. Smoking, illegal drugs and excess alcohol can all dampen your sex drive. Ditching these bad habits may help give your sex drive a boost and improve your overall health. Alternative medicine Talking about low sex drive with a doctor may be difficult for some women. So some women may turn to over-the-counter herbal supplements.
However, the FDA doesn't regulate such products, and in many cases, they haven't been well-studied. Herbal supplements can have side effects or interact with other medications you may be taking.
Always talk with a doctor before using them. One herbal supplement blend is called Avlimil. This product has estrogen-like effects on the body.
While estrogen may boost your sex drive, it may also fuel the growth of certain breast cancers. Another choice is a botanical massage oil called Zestra. It's applied to the clitoris, labia and vagina. One small study found that Zestra increased arousal and pleasure when compared with a placebo oil. The only reported side effect was mild burning in the genital area. Coping and support Low sex drive can be very difficult for you and your partner.
It's natural to feel frustrated or sad if you aren't able to be as sexy and romantic as you want — or you used to be. At the same time, low sex drive can make your partner feel rejected, which can lead to conflicts and strife.
And this type of relationship turmoil can further reduce desire for sex. It may help to remember that fluctuations in the sex drive are a normal part of every relationship and every stage of life. Try not to focus all of your attention on sex. Instead, spend some time nurturing yourself and your relationship. Go for a long walk. Get a little extra sleep. Kiss your partner goodbye before you head out the door.
Make a date night at your favorite restaurant. Feeling good about yourself and your partner can actually be the best foreplay. Preparing for your appointment Primary care doctors and gynecologists often ask about sex and intimacy as part of a routine medical visit. Take this opportunity to be candid about your sexual concerns.
If your doctor doesn't broach the subject, bring it up. You may feel embarrassed to talk about sex with your doctor, but this topic is perfectly appropriate. In fact, your sexual satisfaction is a vital part of your overall health and well-being. What you can do To prepare for this discussion with your doctor: Take note of any sexual problems you're experiencing, including when and how often you usually experience them.
Make a list of your key medical information, including any conditions for which you're being treated, and the names of all medications, vitamins or supplements you're taking.
Consider questions to ask your doctor and write them down. Bring along notepaper and a pen to jot down information as your doctor addresses your questions.
Some basic questions to ask your doctor include: What could be causing my problem? Will my level of desire ever get back to what it once was? What lifestyle changes can I make to improve my situation? What treatments are available? What books or other reading materials can you recommend? Questions your doctor may ask Your doctor will ask questions about the symptoms you're experiencing and assess your hormonal status.
Questions your doctor may ask include: Do you have any sexual concerns? Has your interest in sex changed? Do you have trouble becoming aroused?
Do you experience vaginal dryness? Are you able to have an orgasm? Do you have any pain or discomfort during sex? How much distress do you feel about your sexual concerns? How long have you experienced this problem? Are you still having menstrual periods? Have you ever been treated for cancer? Have you had any gynecological surgeries?