These tactics have been refined to a science over the last decade and a half and I promise you guys, this shit is for real. The first date is a crucial aspect of your sex life and I want you guys to have all the tools you need. If you have time you want to make sure you can shit, shower and shave.
When shaving make sure your pubic area and nose hairs are cleanly trimmed as well. Every single girl will use your washroom within the first 15 minutes of getting back to your place. Instead of using booze to relax, which will fuck up your sex cardio, Phenibut is a great alternative to take the edge off and will make sex feel much more intense. Phenibut and a quarter tab of Cialis will make you a beast. Your Frame For The Date You want to come across as relaxed, charming, confident, polite and most importantly, normal.
Your Clothes For The Date By the time she shows up you should be freshly showered, groomed and in nice clean clothes. As with anything else in life, first impressions mean everything. If you have a nice body, you should wear a tight t-shirt or sweater. Check out my fashion guide here for more ideas. If the girl is tall I will wear my boots, which give me an extra inch and a half. For you shorter guys I would suggest the same thing. One thing you should avoid if you can is wearing socks.
There is no graceful way to take your socks off and you want your transition to sex to be as smooth as possible. Setting Up The first thing you need to do as far as setting up goes is make sure that your place is clean, especially your bathroom. This gives you enough time to get your drink and find a comfortable table away from other humans that faces the door. You also want to adjust the table and chairs so you can easily slip out and give her a hug so that her first impression of you is not you awkwardly struggling to stand up.
On a coffee date, if you have a rare unicorn who gets there on time you can buy her a coffee or whatever she wants. For the average girl who shows up late, let her get up and get her own drink while you message other girls on Tinder.
Definitely do not go back, wait in line and pay again for a girl who showed up late. I always try to avoid alcohol dates but I will go to a bar if the girl insists. Coffee dates are a better setup than drink dates for a few reasons. From just two or three drinks my sex cardio is down to about 80 percent. This will immediately put her at ease, all women are insecure about their looks. This is how you lead with polite dominance. Everyone wants to do business with a winner.
You do that by asking her questions. I use a ton of questions, there is no topic girls like more than talking about themselves. I try to do as little talking as possible. Your goal should be to never break rapport or outright contradict what she says.
Even light teasing is still part of rapport. Sex is the ultimate rapport, so you should start building up to that from the second you meet her. You should always be leading the action and if a girl starts on a negative topic you need to steer her back to positive things. Hey, I forgot to ask, how was that art exhibit you went to this weekend? You can ask her what she likes to do for fun or what kind of music she listens to.
Just repeat the question and vibe loop until she asks about you. When or if she asks about you, you should have a couple of cool, normal hobbies you do. I use the gym and hot yoga. Make sure your hobbies are relatable to her. You can talk about yourself for a bit but you always want to flip it back to her.
People feel most comfortable when they have an attentive audience. I learned this in my sales training. Asking Her To Leave This is where the rubber meets the road. There is no perfect time to ask her home with you, your best bet is to ask her to leave when you think she feels comfortable.
This can be anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour depending on how relaxed she is. The money line is: This is a very important distinction, if you ask her if she wants to come over it makes it much easier for her to say no because your question gives her permission to say no. As we covered before, this is especially important for the elevator ride in your building and walking down the hallway to your door, as these are the two biggest moments where girls go through state changes.
I always keep an extra hanger next to my jackets for this exact reason. You should also take off your shoes and get her to take hers off as well. Now you have one less piece of clothing to take off.
If she looks relaxed and turned on then you can get started right away by pushing her up against the wall and kissing her, grinding, rubbing her pussy, all that fun stuff.
In situations like this you can lead her back to the bedroom or just fuck her up against the wall. Usually it should take at most an hour for her to get comfortable enough to fuck. If you have a one bedroom or a house, just lead her straight into the bedroom. Just go back into the question and vibe loop again until she starts to open up. When she gets comfortable enough just tell her to come sit next to you. Kiss her for a few minutes to get her comfortable before you let your hands roam.
If she stops you or moves your hand at any point, just give it about five minutes and try again. At another five minutes in you can take her shirt off and yours at the same time. Kiss her and give her close body contact for another five minutes, not only is she going to get wetter but it will also get her to release the bonding hormone oxytocin which will relax her.
Even girls that are into hardcore rough sex still appreciate this kind of foreplay. Rub her clit outside of her pants before you reach your hand inside, she should be dripping wet at this point. Rub her clit for awhile under her pants before you take them off, let her build up the desire to fuck you. Most girls will help you by wriggling a bit.
Give it a few more minutes of rubbing your cock against her pussy while you make out. Then reach down next to your bed, grab the condom, slide inside and enjoy. To delve deeper into how to dominate in the bedroom, checkout my sex guides to learn how to fuck her properly , eat pussy and make her squirt. Also, make sure that if you do end up drinking that you cut it after two drinks max.
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