He admits is uncomfortable with a woman who has more sexual experience than he does. At least some experience! I generally prefer that the girl has had at least 1, preferably 2.
Its more fun if the girl knows what she is doing. The higher the number for both sexes , the higher the odds that they have some regrettable bangs in their history.
The girl that fucked her dealer so she could score free drugs. The girl who fucked that guy from the bar, not because she found him particularly attractive, but he kept pushing for it and she just decided to give in.
If I was a straight woman I would have the same hangups about men. Whether people want to admit it or not — your sexual history says a lot about you as a person. There are negatives and positives to being with someone promiscuous. The negatives are that you have to deal with their previous partners which is much more dangerous if their previous partners were men , with jealousy, with the potential that they no longer consider sex special, and with the possibility that they will not respect you if you have had less sex than them.
The positives are that they probably have traits that allow them to be promiscuous such as assertiveness, confidence, or physical attractiveness , and that they probably know what they are doing in bed. A lot of the negatives apply to men and women equally, although I think women are much more likely to disrespect men who are inexperienced than vice versa.
However, I think that the positives are much more likely to matter to women. Women who have the traits necessary to be promiscuous are much more common than men since traditional gender roles do not require women to be assertive or confident. And if you believe the OkCupid study, there are also more attractive women than their are men.
But, aside from that, women benefit more from sleeping with someone who knows what they are doing in bed than men do. Most men are going to orgasm even if the woman is new to sex. But I doubt that the same is true when the situation is reversed.
I think that has more to do with it than anything. Women are probably more likely to orgasm with a man who is experienced, so it makes sense for them to put up with the additional problems that come along with a promiscuous partner.
Men are probably going to enjoy sex even if the woman is inexperienced, so the negatives outweigh the positives. No two people have the same opinion Definitely a person to person thing. To be honest… Honest answer: It depends on what you are looking for. If you are looking for someone who just wants to have casual sex with you, partner count is not much of a factor.
If you are looking for someone who will commit to a long term relationship, you are going to start running into some issues. As others have pointed out, merely having sex is a whole lot easier for women than men. So if a woman has a high partner count I am going to sort of assume that she is not very serious about commitment and probably not that picky.
That basically makes me not anything that special to her. It is just my turn. Mostly centered around a need for validation or some drive to constantly seek male attention. Daddy issues, in other words. Generally, the pattern this sets up is that things are essentially fine until the man in the equation gets super busy with work or something, or the couple has a fight.
This is to just name a couple of reasons. The main point I am making is this: Like it or not, when it comes to finding a man that is willing to commit to you long term, partner count can still be a pretty big factor. That said, if what you are doing is looking to get laid, you should have very little trouble as long as you are reasonably attractive. At least well into your 30s.