Obviously, this opens up doors for a lot of potentially awkward situations. To keep things less slobbery and more streamlined, here are a few do's and don'ts to keep top of mind. Do keep it passionate, and include your body. Remember, the whole reason you're French kissing and not regular kissing is because you want that added spark that ignites when two people put their mouths together this way.
Fetish model and adult entertainer Luna says that making sure your body is involved rather than just letting your mouth do all the work will help build that intimacy. Place a strong hand on the back of her head and passionate kiss like you mean it. If you're going to be kissing this way, keep in mind that your partner is about to get very up close and personal with your mouth — so it's to both of your benefits to make sure you do your due diligence in making sure that area is good to go.
No one likes a stubble rash. You don't want to take her by surprise with your tongue. Instead, you want to slip it in there seamlessly so that it just becomes part of the motion of your mouths. This will make you both feel more relaxed and sensual.
Then, focus the kiss on the tongue. Remember, you are not licking their mouth but caressing their tongue. When you're doing the tongue tango, it's almost inevitable that things can get sloppy.
This will give yourself a chance to regroup. Then, go back in. The key is to make sure you stop before you get to that point. Do keep your tongue engaged. Once you've successfully introduced your tongue into her mouth, make sure you keep things moving.
Think of it as a dance of your tongues. Ideally, you want to be matched where pressure is concerned. Usually the more delicate, the better.
Don't hit her teeth. Nothing takes you out of the passionate kissing mood like colliding with your partner's teeth. To prevent this, Xu says it's important to be mindful of how much you're opening your mouth.
If you open too wide, she'll only feel your tongue and your teeth. Think of it as pursing your lips; your lips are the gate to your tongue. But a lot of my French kissing experience with someone new has felt like the guy just goes on autopilot — which you don't want either. If you're not really paying attention, that's when the awkward stuff happens. Like, you drool on each other, or you hit into each other's mouths too hard.
I think being present in what you're doing and not overthinking it are probably two big factors you want to keep in mind when you're French kissing someone new. You don't want to be a super weak French kisser, but you most definitely do not want to do the opposite. He tried to get me to take things further, and I was so turned off that I said I was exhausted and had to call it a night. Which was not a lie — the whole thing was exhausting!
Yes, you want your tongue to be involved. But you don't want the girl to feel like her mouth is under some kind of attack here. When in doubt, the slower the better. I personally like it when a guy does the tease with his tongue — where he'll massage mine lightly with his and then back off, and then come back at it. It's kind of like edging, but for your mouth. The Right Time To Start French Kissing You're on a first date with a girl you really like, and the two of you are definitely feeling each other.
You decide that at the end of the night, you're going to go in for a kiss. But, is it too soon to get your tongue involved? Should you wait until a few more dates in? Will she feel like you're coming in too hard and fast if you do try and French kiss her? When it comes to what the experts say, the jury is out on this one.
But here are a few things to consider when you're figuring out the right time to start French kissing someone new. Right away, if you both want to. French kissing is no longer seen as exclusively foreplay to sex, nor is it seen as overly provocative. Many people French kiss at the altar when they wed, and you see lovers embrace and kiss when leaving each other at a station, and a lot of kissing in bars and clubs.
A first date would warrant a kiss if you feel you want to see the other person again. Second dates get stuck in. Be respectful, mature and upfront about your preferences. If asking if it's okay for you to 'take your kissing to the next level' makes you uncomfortable, consider whether you're emotionally mature enough to handle a relationship in the first place.
I wouldn't want to start French kissing him immediately though, there should be some build up. I also think it depends on where you are kissing this person, and for how long. Sometimes a goodnight kiss can turn into a French kiss. But it can be awkward if one person is just trying to give a short, quick kiss good night — and the other is going all in for a makeout sesh. Plus, I think not French kissing until a few dates in adds to the build up, and that can make the kiss even hotter once we do it.
You can kind of feel that vibe from the beginning of the date — but I've also had first dates that start off well and end with me not feeling it because the kiss was awful and we just weren't connecting that way. Advantages And Drawbacks To French Kissing As with just about anything in life, French kissing comes with its own set of pros and cons. Here are a few of the big advantages — and some drawbacks to keep in mind while you're going at it.
If you're rocking stubble and planning on getting lucky later, it might be time for a fresh shave. It's more heightened than regular kissing. This encourages pair bonding. Frenching done right biologically brings you and your partner closer.
Possibly gross, unless that's okay with your partner. Maybe they hate a dry mouth? It's all about preference and communication. French kiss," says Olivia, Same for if you're out with your friends and definitely in front of her family. Other than that, let your Frenching freak flag fly. As long as you're not doing it wrong and putting your mouth all over her face it's all good. I've never heard of anyone dying from getting saliva on their face.
Advanced French Kissing Techniques You've mastered the basics, understand how to time it right, and are fully briefed on the advantages and drawbacks of French kissing. Ready to put a few pro moves into motion? Here are a few suggestions for next level lip locking. In the same way you can use flavors by sucking on a sweet beforehand or during. Take note that chewing gum is not a sexy kissing aid, though.
A simple change of scene can do a lot for your makeout session. If you've already cleared that you're both okay with Frenching, then spontaneity and surprise smooches are always sweet. What Do Women Find Sexy? If you're going in for a deep tongue kiss, your hands should strongly wrap around her as you pull her in. If your tongue is going in for a teaser kiss, gently caress her waistline with your fingers.
I imagine it would also work just as well with something like a strawberry — but I feel like guys are more likely to have ice cubes handy.
How French Kissing Can Lead To More French kissing is pretty much a gateway drug into more sexual acts like dry humping, oral stimulation and yes, eventually going all the way. Going down each of these routes requires your partner's consent in the matter.
But there are a few maneuvers that will likely lead you to the rest of the bases to score yourself a home run. Move your body the right way. French kissing is a part of foreplay if you do it right meaning, using your body and hands in conjunction.
It can build up the passion to either taking it to the next level, which is usually removal of clothing or heavy petting, or it can leave you both wanting more the next time! Every couple is different, but usually once you've been out on a few dates and you're alone together at one of your places, something more is bound to happen. It doesn't always expressly mean that you two are going to bang if you're making out alone together.
I think it's fine for the guy to feel out the situation — literally. But to also be respectful if she tells you she's not ready for that step yet. A pit stop around my neck and my nipples are must-visit points of interest.