Kasandra Brabaw Photographed by Lauren Perlstein. If you have sexual fantasies you've never acted on, don't worry — you're definitely not alone. Even the sexually adventurous among us can't possibly have made it through every possible sexual scenario. There are countless sex positions, locations, kinks, and couplings to explore.
So, if you're looking to get a bit more experienced, then it's time to sit down and write your sex bucket list.
Just like a regular bucket list — which is a check list of experiences you want to have before you die — a sex bucket list forces you to think about what you really want to do in and out of the bedroom. It's almost guaranteed to make your sex life a little more exciting. Making a list is just the beginning, though. The real fun comes in checking each item off. Advertisement Ahead, we've rounded up some steamy sexual fantasies to inspire your own sex bucket list — and how to actually make them a reality.
Having "Anywhere But The Bed" Sex Sex in your bed is great, of course, but every once in a while it's fun to switch up the location.
Have sex on the kitchen table, against your front door, in the backyard, in your pool, in the car, or anywhere else your imagination takes you. How to make it happen: The instructions on this one are pretty simple — just do it. But remember, if you have roommates and aren't into letting them watch, makes sure to plan your "anywhere but the bed" sex for a time when you know they won't be coming home.
If you've always dreamed about having sex that involves three or more people, you're not alone. All kinds of people, both queer and straight, have fantasized about having a threesome. As magical as threesomes sound, they don't actually happen by magic.
It takes a lot of communication, with your partner if you're adding a third, with the couple if you're joining in, or with two people who've never slept with each other before. You'll need to talk about your expectations and boundaries, and make sure everyone involved is excited for what's about to happen.
Still not sure how to make it work? Read these handy tips from people who've actually had threesomes — and love them. Joining The Mile-High Club There's a reason this one is a classic, even though those tiny airplane bathrooms are hardly conducive to getting into a good position.
Airplane sex has an element of risk, since flight attendants or your fellow passengers could catch you at any time. Plus, if you're not traveling with a partner, then it could also mean having hot, spontaneous sex with a stranger. Based on people's real-life experiences , it seems that joining the mile-high club is easiest to do with a partner or friend, rather than a stranger.
Most people suggest going to the bathroom for at least a little bit of privacy, but word to the wise: Those little rooms aren't exactly soundproof. Having Sex In A Public Place Whether it's in the bathroom at your favorite bar, in a department store dressing room, or behind the bushes on a deserted street, the could-get-caught risk makes public sex way more exciting than your usual romp at home.
We're not going to lie, this one is risky. Having sex in public violates public indecency laws in pretty much every state. But if you're careful, it's totally possible to pull off and extremely hot. The most important tip, of course, is to choose a place that's public but not too public.
That means finding a bathroom with a door that locks , or having sex on a balcony, a fire escape, an empty hillside, or on a rooftop Having Sex While Someone Watches Exhibitionism isn't for everyone, but some people love the idea of getting it on with a partner while a third person watches and maybe even masturbates because they find the action so sexy. If you live in a city that hosts sex parties, then it's almost guaranteed that someone will watch.
If you can't attend a sex party, find an adventurous friend who's willing to join in or put a call out on dating apps. It might take some time to find the right person, but it'll be worth the wait. Channeling Your Inner Anastasia Steele If you've heard of 50 Shades Of Grey, then you have at least some idea of what it means to be submissive though keep in mind that both the books and movies get a lot wrong about kink.
Being a submissive essentially means that the dominant partner has control — with your consent, of course. That can mean the dom ties you up, spanks you, denies you an orgasm, tells you what to say, or any number of other sexual acts.
If you have a partner, start with a conversation. Telling anyone about your kink can be nerve-wracking, for sure, but open communication with sexual partners is the only surefire way to make sure you're getting what you want in bed. If you don't have a partner, many sex parties have BDSM sections for people who either want to dominate or be dominated.
If the idea of a sex dungeon freaks you out, attend a class or information session for a reputable sex party or kink group in your area.