Buying a woman in prostitution gives men the power to turn women into a living, breathing masturbation fantasy. He removes her self and those qualities that define her as an individual, and for him she becomes sexualized body parts. Fair shake of the sauce bottle Mel — chicks like to masturbate too. Obviously, if a woman is selling herself for sex than she must be an STD-ridden crack whore who stalks husbands and boyfriends like a hyena in the night.
But I figure maybe it was worth asking an actual prostitute about the sex industry and her experiences in it before I go jumping on the bible-bandwagon. In fact, during the course of our interview, not once did she try to seduce me or inhale my soul.
She did however change my perceptions on the sex industry entirely. How did you get into the sex industry? I then had a career in digital media strategy and project management. For me sex work offers obviously a higher income and a lot of flexibility, the ability to run my own business, talk to clientele and I really enjoy it.
Even though I was quite a creative industry and it was a lot of fun, the opportunity to own your own business and have that sort of flexibility and time is an appealing prospect. I know that there are different types of sex workers. Some do the whole girlfriend experience while others just go for the porn star approach. Which sort of sex worker would you classify yourself as? Everyone is really different on how they approach sex work.
Some sex workers are really transparent and very much give a lot of themselves to their clientele. Others really enjoy having the alias and the secret life, secret name and dressing up and being that character, and that helps them with their work. They really want to try different fantasies and everything from anal to dressing costumes, role-playing, BDSM.
Without breaking any rules of discretion tell me about some of the sorts of clients you see. I assume the large majority of them are rich, married men right? So I find that side of work really fascinating as well and really enjoy doing that.
Especially women that are looking to explore their sexuality or even their bi-sexuality. It happens, you leave and the discretion, your private life remains.
I had a female send her husband to me for oral sex on me. How do you give a blowjob like that? What stressed you out?
Did you have any weird clients? Any crazy things happen? Why did you decide to be so open about sex work? What you often find too with a lot of the stigma around sex work too, approaching legal avenues — unless you get a sympathetic case worker or a sympathetic police officer — sometimes too their judgment will carry on.
So they have to internalize a lot of problems. You mentioned that your parents know about your career in the sex industry. When you told your mother, how did she take the news? I actually told her I was a drug dealer first because I had a lot of money and was buying a lot of things.
For me in my head that was a more acceptable thing to tell my parents then to tell them the truth. I think she followed me in the car once when I was catching a bus into town and turns out she saw me walking into the brothel and she said she knew what I was doing. Eventually when I told her my dad cried and she started vomiting. What did we do wrong? Did someone try to touch you?
Or did we fail? Suddenly they started blaming themselves because for some reason it meant I was inherently flawed. Sex work is just rocking up to a dodgy hotel, getting laid, giving head, maybe having a bit of the old crack pipe then fucking off to the next client, right? But sex itself is neither a sin nor evil — in fact sex, according to most reports, is actually a lot of fun.
Son of God or not, he did have a penis; probably a big fucker too. Back to the point though; there are many different perspectives surrounding the sex industry that revolve around some sort of spectrum — street-based hookers down one end and the high-class glamour escorts at the other. The reality is different though, as Grace Bellavue informs me. When you see these stereotypes perpetuated in the media how does it make you feel?
I mean you have to understand there are street based workers but I think people sort of see it as a spectrum, like a horizontal spectrum. But then I still have to pay for my transport, my own supplies, my own clothing.
So I think rather than looking at the spectrum as people of bigger or lesser worth I think people should just start actually looking at the industry in terms of ease of accessibility and work choices. I find it interesting how honest and open you are with what you do. Is this something that can be applied to the sex industry? I definitely think it is. For example I had this girl who wanted to come to her mother recently and I said to her well if you want, if it helps my mum and call your mum and they can have a cup of coffee because they can have a discussion.
Even in Queensland, where members of the former Joh Bjelke-Petersen government actually owned and ran brothels, our prostitution laws try to contain the sex industry rather than make it a safe working environment. I mean strewth, one of the laws in chapter 22 a of our criminal code prohibits more than one prostitute seeing a client outside of a legal brothel. Lastly, there are man-made laws that try to govern us all. For these legal structures to be made, a group of people have to get together and decide what constitutes the ultimate truth, and what punishment a breach of that truth deserves.
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