We have some tips to help keep the fire going for better, longer lovemaking. True sexual fulfillment comes from playful and sincere experiences of emotional and physical intimacy. Before we dive into these tips, keep a playful spirit in mind. Bringing inner conflicts, needs, and suppressions into a sexual experience will ruin it.
Remember, sex can be and is supposed to be pleasurable. Even as you explore the tips suggested here, keep this core idea in mind. From that point, sexual performance and stamina can be improved with much less effort.
Here are some simple tips that can help transform your sex life into bliss: Kama literally means lust, love, or desire, and Sutra basically means instruction or manual. So the Kama Sutra is literally the handbook or manual for handling lust, love, and desire. Within the Sutra is a technique for delaying ejaculation and increasing stamina. The exercise suggests that men start slow — keeping each penetration slow, roughly every three seconds — slowly increasing the number of strokes over time.
If the sensation for orgasm comes too soon, then it is suggested to stay inside his partner until he regains control and continue slowly. I suggest getting a copy of the Kama Sutra Vatsyayana for further details and timeless wisdom on the topic. Lose Your Mind Performance anxiety is the number one assassin of sexual performance. Instead of constantly thinking and worrying about your sexual performance, just watch your worried thoughts as they appear or maybe even share them with your partner.
By keeping our thoughts to ourselves, they only grow. By sharing them, we take away their power. You can also shift your focus away from the mind and to the body. The Kama Sutra suggests paying a lot of attention to breathing during sex. This gets us out of our heads and back into our bodies — making it easier to focus on the senses and feelings the body is experiencing during sex.
You can even communicate together on length of breath, inhaling for three seconds and exhaling for six and then together, observe the space between inhale and exhale. You do not need to maintain this throughout the entire sex act, but as a starting place, you will begin the process of aligning your entire bodies together.
Practicing controlled breathing during sex will not only help you last longer, but also make sex more pleasurable by releasing feel-good endorphins. A little foreplay can go a long way.
Keep the changes subtle, such as turning over positions, wandering touches, or holding place and focusing on a kiss. Slow it Down When it comes to sex, and most areas of life, good control boils down to lightness of touch.
Slow down and give attention to her body as a whole, paying fine detail to every crevice, curve, and soft place there is.
And when it comes to the vagina, explore outside the clitoris and G-spot. The vagina is a cluster of 8, nerve endings just waiting to be stimulated — a proper yoni massage can be a great way to set the mood and keep things lasting. Make sure your partner is relaxed and in a comfortable position. Set the scene to be sweet and peaceful. Next, start warming things up. Temperature is key and this is where foreplay can help. From here get things wet — lubrication is key.
Start by getting blood flow to the vagina by slowly caressing the labia and outer lips of the vagina. Slowly work your way up to the most sensitive part of the female body, the clitoris. Most people confuse the clitoris with the hood clitoral glans at the opening of the vagina. The clitoral glans is visible from the outside; however, the other three quarters of clitoris is inside the body.
Once your lady has warmed up and is feeling relaxed pay attention to her breath for cues you can make your way to stimulating the clitoris.
This part of the vagina is the most sensitive. When touching it, be very, very gentle, you do not need to place much pressure. Rest your fingers and palm underneath her butt and very gently use your thumb to move the clitoris in a circular motion. Most importantly, while you are pleasing your woman, completely forget any sort of destination for orgasm and enjoy the journey.
Try Kegels There are exercises that can be done to strengthen the pelvic floor muscle called kegels. This muscle is also referred to as the PC muscle or pubococcygeus muscle. Studies have shown that women who practice kegels daily, 10 sets for 10 reps, have reduced stress levels. Also, stress related to sexual arousal or performance anxiety can decrease sexual arousal. While you are urinating, try stopping the flow of urine — that is the PC muscle.
Once located, simply do this exercise for a few minutes daily. Get Herbal Support Ashwagandha, also known as withania somnifera, has been used traditionally in Ayurvedic medicine as an aphrodisiac and remedy for male sexual dysfunction and infertility.
This is what makes Ashwagandha great — it is an adaptogenic herb that helps the body, specifically the kidneys, better adapt to stress. Low libido is often a result of hormonal imbalance, specifically low bioavailable testosterone. Also, a strict vegetarian diet that focuses on consumption of plenty of nuts and beans has been linked to hormonal changes in testosterone.
However, sticking to a whole foods diet that is rich in organic fresh vegetables, low in sugar, and contains moderate amounts of healthy fats is optimal for hormone health and thus a strong sex drive. A few specific foods to consume for healthy testosterone levels are pastured eggs, beef, and oysters. You can find more of his writing on his blog NicksFit. His mission is to inspire the transformation toward love consciousness. Follow him on Instagram for more living in love inspiration and transformational mindset motivation!
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