SHARE A fascinating study by the mathematician and economist, Robert Seymour and the social scientist, Peter Sozou, researchers at the University College London and The London School of Economics shows that a longer courtship before mating allows a male to show that he is "good" from the female's point of view.
The authors define "goodness" as a man's willingness to care for young after mating. According to the researchers, a longer courtship shows that the males who are more available for lasting and true love relationships were willing to wait and delay having sex.
They consider these subjects to be "good men" from the women's point of view. According to the authors, a "good male," values mating with the female, relative to the costs of courtship, more highly than a "bad male" their term does. In other words, they can wait longer. To all men, the courtship game is a kind of war of attrition, with the opportunity to mate with the woman the real benefit for which they wait.
You gotta love this study!! It is not only funny in its use of value-laden terms of "good" and "bad" by male scientists no less but it is totally in line with my own clinical findings on relationships. The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love recommends that women of all ages casually date a few guys at the same time while not having sex with any of them.
There are sound biological reasons why the Program of Three works. It helps you avoid the number one mistake that single women make: When you have sex with someone, your body drives up the levels of oxytocin both during the whole sexual act and after you leave the scene.
Oxytocin, which has been called the cuddle, bonding, or tend-and-befriend hormone, creates a strong biological attachment. This means that your body may automatically start the attachment process with almost anyone you bed, whether or not you want to be in a relationship with him!
On my dating program it is only after at least two months of consistently improving contact that I suggest that women consider dating a fellow exclusively and possibly having sex with him. Over the course of these two months, there should be more sharing of friends, family and personal space, as well as feelings and thoughts.
True love comes from having a best friendship along with chemistry. Waiting is a good thing for both men and women. So folks, learn to discriminate. It's just out in paperback with a new chapter on Dating Games Men Play. She has been married to a "good" man for over 25 years. Share funny viral videos about flirting and dating games men play.
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