This FREE ebook delivers the successful and not-so-successful approaches to help keep you and your partner from drifting away from each other. I was skeptical when you told me to stop "chasing her". Dear Kim, One year post therapy and we are still going strong. I still can't believe that less than two years ago my wife asked me to move out of the house.
She was convinced it was hopeless and things would never change. I couldn't imagine how giving her space would help her love me again but it worked! As you know, what started as marriage counseling with only me ended with us both committed to the process. Thank you again for all your help and the compassion you showed us. I never would have believed this last year was possible when I contacted you the first time.
It required a commitment on both our parts. We learned how to build a foundation for a healthy marriage that is long lasting. We didn't have major problems. We just weren't communicating. Kim helped us look at ourselves in a safe, non-threatening way.
Both of us have already recommended her to family members we know who are struggling. It wasn't always an easy ride, coming to recognize our shortcomings and those deep-seated insecurities that drove us to react rather than communicate.
But it wasn't always rough either. If nothing else, my husband and I are more mindful partners. Even today, nine months later, we try to put into practice the communication tools we learned in our sessions with Kim.
I thought we were over but Kim helped us find each other again. I will be forever grateful, Kim, for your passion for marriage. My wife left town for a month and when she returned, she saw all the changes I had made. We started spending more time together and when it was time to talk to the mediator, she told me she didn't want the divorce. We kissed for the first time in 5 months!!!
We are now going to counseling and things look better each day. You were indeed a God send, when all was lost, you were injected into our lives.
Even in tough sessions, your tender heart and true compassion shown through. I will be forever grateful for all you did under the true guidance of the Lord. Words cannot say enough or the right thing that would express my appreciation. Thank you for new life and a renewed marriage.
Thanks so much for all the times you listened and all the great advice you gave me. I was headed for trouble in an abusive relationship and you showed me how self-destructive I was being! You showed me how to know the difference between loving someone and being infatuated. Sometimes that required you to take late night phone calls or come in on a weekend to help me get through the crisis. I know I always have a place I can come when life gets too overwhelming.
The fights would get so bad we would break up, stay apart for a few months and then get back together. I got tired of the rollercoaster and I was getting too old to waste my time in a relationship that was going nowhere. We got married five months ago! Kim, we are so happy. On our honeymoon in Hawaii…wink wink , we toasted you over dinner one night.
We had quit having fun, both separately and together. It had become easier to just stop trying and with that, problems and resentments had started to grow. Both of us were having doubts about the future of our marriage although neither of us would admit it to the other. With Kim, we discovered someone who quickly and intuitively got to the heart of our problems.
Kim helped us identify our own individual issues and challenges and showed us how those fed into the relationship. From that she helped us see the resulting behavior patterns and the cycles that followed.
She gave us the right setting, taught us the right tools, and made sure that our approach with each other was always loving and respectful. We were referred to you by our school counselor because our son had severe anxiety.
Before he started therapy, he was having a lot of stomach issues and was often throwing up. You worked with him for about 6 months and he is doing so much better. I just have to tell you it is an added bonus how much better he gets along with his brother. It is so nice to have peace in the house again. It was obvious you loved our child and helped him so much. We are still figuring this out but I really do think we are going to make it.