Email The mega-church pastor hits a handful of hot topics head on. One of the big assumptions I challenge is: The new rule is: That somehow commitment will trump the needs for preparation. I hope the primary takeaway of these teachings is that: When it comes to romance, people put a premium on the romantic part as if that is the litmus. But when that begins to wane, the relationship can go in the same direction.
This principle calls a timeout. Sex is not just physical even though that is the way the culture and media often treat it. Our sexuality goes way beyond what is physical, and we see that especially in the realm of sexual abuse. Knowing you as well as I do, it struck me as odd that you would write an entire book on the subject without addressing the LGBT community.
Was that an oversight or on purpose? I met with them to ask lots of questions, including their response to the series because I did not address the LGBT community directly. It was unanimous that they thought it was helpful and shared some of the stuff they learned. Did people get up and leave? A culture that views people as a commodity is a culture sliding towards softening their position on slavery. In one service, people clapped.
How do these teachings look different now than if you had written them 20 years ago? Twenty years ago, most of us considered pornography a pastime, not a pathway. There was not that much information about the addictive nature of porn. This is especially prevalent with men. It sounds absurd, but if porn is going to be part of your life, you need to tell the other person that.
I challenge guys face to face and have told our whole congregation this, and they are aghast. But why not be honest? What do you mean by that phrase? Love is natural in terms of a feeling, but not in terms of doing. You used them in the same sentence, but they are different things. The natural part of love is the feeling and chemistry part, but the doing part of love is unnatural.