By Glamour Wednesday 22 March So what's the one thing you'd never do when it comes to sex? Having an open relationship tops the list in one recent survey, closely followed by having sex with someone much older or younger than you. However, as we all know, what we say and what we do doesn't always match up. When Ellie didn't want to come, Justin and I still went together.
A couple of times Justin wanted to go for a weekend break in Scotland and, because Ellie didn't fancy it, I went with him. She didn't seem bothered. Once, when we were away, he just kissed me. Ellie heard rumours and asked what was going on- we denied it, but she found out the truth and they split. Justin and I were together for 18 months before we came clean to our other friends. I always said I'd never get involved with another girl's man, especially a friend's.
I love Justin, but I regret losing the best friendship I ever had. I've been with Justin for four years and I still beat myself up about it. Unbelievably, Ellie's still there for me when there's a crisis. She's one in a million. He was a friendly guy and he kept telling me I had lovely hair and was wearing a great dress. He told me he was 32, but he looked older. When I questioned him, he said, "Why would I be hanging around with lads in their twenties if I'm way older than them?
When we all left he grabbed my hand and we started kissing. He asked me back to his and, without really thinking about it, I went. The next morning I woke up, looked at him and thought, 'Oh. That's 32 years older than me and ten years older than my dad. I can't believe I slept with someone who could technically be my grandfather. I was close to Jack for about a year and a half before anything happened, I'd give him advice about girl problems and he'd come out with me and my boyfriend.
When he invited me to an after-hours party at his pub one night, I realised I had feelings for him, and blurted it out. Thankfully he felt the same. We were worried about ruining our friendship, but before I knew it we were having sex on table We've been together three months now. Breaking my sex taboo was the best thing I ever did - if I hadn't, I might've woken up at 55 with my old boyfriend, who didn't make me nearly as happy.
Taboos are meant to be broken if it means finding the person you've been searching for all your life. We flirted for about two years and then he separated from his wife. We started seeing each other quite quickly and although he moved out, he kept in touch with his wife. We'd been together for about nine months when he came round to my house and said, "I don't love you, I never loved you. It was a big mistake.
It was only after he dumped me that I found out he'd still been seeing his wife. He'd been cheating on both of us. Deep down I guess I thought he might still be seeing her, but I was in love and didn't want to think about it. I'd never do it again- it destroyed me. You can't help who you fall in love with, but you have to think long term. You're not only hurting yourself, you're hurting other people.