Sexual content Nikki Goldstein Can a straight man hook up with a guy and still be straight? Sexual content IF A man is sexual with another man, is he gay? You can kiss a girl and like it and be straight, but man on man sex is quickly put in the category of homosexuality. Are these men secretly gay and in hiding? As it turns out, not all of them are. After investigating the issue and speaking to some of the men involved, I was surprised to find out that as well as some of these men being in the closet, there is also a population of guys out there who are hooking up with other guys just for the pure ease at which a hook up can occur.
It is not necessarily about sexual attraction to a gender, but sexual pleasure. Finding a gay man who has experience in this was not difficult at all. He also informed me of a recent encounter he had with a straight man at a sex on premises club who he thought was gay. Towards the end of the encounter, his phone rang displaying a photo of the man he was hooking up with and his wife on their wedding day.
These men will walk in and walk away without knowing who the person is on the other side but understand that it is another man. While some men might be experimenting with their sexuality and desires, Max explains that the glory hole encounters between men where one might not identify as gay could be more to do with the ease at which men can get off.
It is about just getting off. Guys know what other guys are like. Guys just want to get off. I think there are so many more men out than the world realises, than woman realise, that enjoy a different type of stimulation.
They are just wanting to experiment and have a bit of fun just like we see girls out there on the dance floor. The idea that two women together is hot but two men together is gay. Paul wants to experience different sexual encounters and not be restricted by a label. If you are a straight man who has sex with men, why identify as straight?
If you enjoy it, why not call yourself bi or fluid? It seems there are many issues when it comes to homosexuality that many men are not comfortable with, and these might stem from lifestyle, masculinity to cultural or religion.
We all have a right to change our minds and go with the flow. Dr Nikki Goldstein is a sexologist. She goes deeper into the topic of straight men who have sex with men in her new podcast Sex and Life on PodcastOne.