Share by E-Mail Did you have sex before marriage with your husband-to-be——or with someone else? With this statistic in mind, it would be naive of me to assume that the majority of Christian women waited to have sex until after their wedding.
God grants us His Spirit to transform our hearts, causing what was once dead to become alive unto Christ.
When you are truly redeemed God will guide you with His Spirit to help you walk the path of obedience to His will for your life. Therefore, to feel conviction is a good thing because: God's kindness is meant to lead you to repentance Romans 2: Guilt on the other hand is that ugly finger the enemy points into your face and whispers lies like: Your ugly past makes you less than acceptable to serve the Lord.
If people knew about your sinful past they would reject you. You are the only one who made such terrible choices in your past. Please understand I am not talking about sexual abuse. If you are wrestling with guilt over how someone took advantage of you sexually, you have no reason to feel guilt or shame. If a person violated you, they are the one who has sinned——not you. I was molested as a six-year-old, so I understand the thoughts that can creep into our minds.
But I also know there is victory over those thoughts——with the help of biblical counselors. If this is your story, please seek a professional counselor. It is however a sin against our own bodies 1 Corinthians 6: If you're carrying baggage of guilt from sexual experiences before marriage, it is time to clear your heart——and mind, and be set free from the shame.
Christian women often get stuck thinking about how they sinned sexually before marriage. I find it interesting how Satan seduces a woman to sin in this area of sexual impurity, then turns his wicked finger on her and tells her how shameful she is for doing so. Jesus washed your sins away, and Jesus is the one who can give you victory over those destructive thoughts. Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. If you do not have a personal relationship with Jesus, this article is not to manipulate you to stop having sex outside of marriage.
Merely stopping a behavior is not the way to break free from guilt. Because the only way to find genuine relief from all sin and shame is to know the One who came and shed His precious blood to wash away all of your sins——and mine. If the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed. If you would like to know more about what it means to be set free through a relationship with Christ, please contact me through NoRegretsWoman.
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