Here's the link to the original location , with over comments thus far. Christopher Ryan is one of the freshest voices in the modern scientific movement to decode the mystery of human sexuality. His book, Sex At Dawn , busts many of the myths surrounding human sexual evolution, based upon contextual evidence from our hominid ancestors as well as our living relatives, namely, the great apes. We've known for some time that bonobos previously known as "pygmy chimpanzees" are among the most sexual of all living animals—besides, of course, humans.
Frans de Waal dubbed them the "make love, not war" species since they seem to resolve the majority of conflicts through sexual activity. So, it seemed only natural that I ask Dr. Ryan, preeminent "sexpert," to give us some love advice through the lens of these magnificent creatures. From them, we can learn a thing or two--or seven. So, without further ado, here are seven things we can learn about love from bonobos, as described by Dr.
As the great primatologist, Frans de Waal put it, "Chimps use violence to get sex, while bonobos use sex to avoid violence. As James Prescott demonstrated in a meta-analysis of all available anthropological data, the connection between less restrictive sexuality and less conflict generally holds true for human societies as well. Feminism can be very sexy. When females are in charge, everyone lives better including the males. While male chimps run the show, among bonobos, it's the females who are in charge, with much better quality of life for everyone involved see 1.
If a male gets out of line and harasses a female, ALL the other females will gang up on him. This sisterly solidarity, combined with lots of sex, tends to keep the males behaving politely. While bonobos no-doubt experience unique feelings for one another, they don't seem to worry much about controlling one another's sex lives.
Nor do bonobos seem to gossip much There's promise in promiscuity. All the casual sex among bonobos is arguably a big part of what has made them among the smartest of all primates. Until human beings came along and messed things up for them, bonobos enjoyed very high quality of life, low stress , and plenty of social interaction in hammocks.
In fact, of the many species of social primates living in multi-male social groups, not a single species is sexually monogamous. Each of the arguably smartest mammals--humans, chimps, bonobos, and dolphins—is promiscuous. Good sex needn't always include an orgasm , and "casual" doesn't necessarily mean "empty" or "cheap. See Vanessa Woods 's excellent book by that name for a personal story of living with bonobos while falling in love.
But bonobos are very romantic: Sex and food go together better than love and marriage —at least for bonobos. Nothing gets a bonobo orgy started faster than a feast.
Give a group of bonobos a bunch of food and they'll all have some quick sex before very politely sharing the food. No need to fight over scraps like a bunch of uncouth chimps!