Yet, as I watched the show with my partner, the character I found myself falling in love with, sympathizing with and rooting for the most…was Charlotte York. Yeah, it freaked me out too. First, we need to address the things that are often held against Charlotte as a character: Charlotte is a Prude: Miranda once got freaked out because her male partner wanted to kiss her after performing oral sex on her. Carrie, just like Charlotte, once shamed Samantha for having too much sex.
Charlotte was open to the idea of a threesome and even flashed her breast in public once. Samantha and Charlotte are both extra for comedic effect and easy binaries, but it is not a reflection of their morality at its core.
Charlotte is just the only one who is upfront about the fact that yes, she wants to get married and have a family. Throughout the series, all of the women judge themselves by their ability to get men and the relationships they maintain. Miranda looks to men for validation of her sex appeal after her pregnancy. Also, let it be known that it is Charlotte, not Miranda or Carrie or Samantha, who says that all of them are soulmates.
Charlotte, more than any other the other women, is a more reliable friend. Carrie should have never asked Charlotte for money and Charlotte was not bad for not offering. Charlotte is not an idiot. She also went to Smith College, which has housed many lady intellectuals across party lines.
For me, Charlotte in the first few seasons is a collection of all the things women are supposed to be and supposed to be ashamed of being at the exact same time. When Charlotte gets that man in Trey, she continues to perform. It is in this arc that Charlotte begins to take control of her sexuality, and while she works to save the sexual aspects of her marriage, there is something else she wants: Which is what brings us to my favorite storyline in the series: It shows her pain, her frustration and the way it can be heartbreaking to see people around you having children when you so desperately want to have one yourself.
Finally, in terms of this storyline, it has Charlotte standing up to her racist mother-in-law when she makes racist comments concerning Charlotte and Trey considering adopting a child from China. Something that hardly ever comes up in interracial adoptions. When Charlotte meets Harry, a.
Instead of believing that her looks and charm alone are enough, she has to learn to love without the traditional expectations, even if that is not marriage. Season Six Charlotte takes it in stride, because she is a woman who has learned that superficial perfection does not equal love.
See, the thing that makes women strong is that we have the guts to be vulnerable. We have the ability to feel the depths of our emotion, and we know that we will walk though it to the other side. That is how I feel about Charlotte, and that is why she has become such an important character to me. She and I are totally different people. Charlotte is a straight WASP.
But we are similar in that we are both Pollyannas who believe in love. It is hard, as women, to figure out how to live in that place. The place where we can cry over a break up without feeling deep shame for caring that much in the first place.
When it comes to romance and love, most of us, and women especially have been slowly taught to be afraid of it, to be overwhelmed by it, to seek it, but never to taught how to be in it. But to feel nothing so as not to feel anything — what a waste! She learns how to not compromise what it is important to her sexually and emotionally and walks out of her divorce with a sense of self-worth and value she did not have before.
She fails, massively, but gets to rise up stronger and better than before. She walked through the other side and did it still believing that love was possible. I am afraid that they will grow up looking for intimacy without risk, for pleasure without significant emotional investment. They will forgo the possibilities of love and joy. Ultimately, cynicism is the great mask of the disappointed and betrayed heart.
We so often think that women need pain to be strong and need to harden themselves in order to survive, but that is destructive. Charlotte is the character, who above all of the other women, who refuses to ever forgo the possbility of joy and love in her life and that, as someone who struggles with depression and anxiety, is uplifting. All the characters have to evolve beyond their stereotypes in some way and watching those journeys and watching flawed women grow into slight less-flawed realized versions of themselves is great television.