Abiola Abrams Mar, 29, This is the season for fun, freedom, feminine energy and sexy new beginnings. To get the best tips to set your sexy time on fire, I called on my sexpert besties. Just consider us The Black Sexerati. These spicy sexperts are a diverse group. We are married, single and engaged, heterosexual, gay and pansexual, female and male, formally educated and self-taught, Christian and other, coaches, writers, and speakers.
Reading your Intimacy Intervention advice questions each week, I see that many of you are still scared of the M-word. Masturbation leads to you knowing your luscious body better. You will reinforce to yourself that you deserve pleasurable touch whether or not you have a partner. You will know what pleases you so that you can show someone else. You can experiment alone first if you are feeling shy. You can even put on an incredible show for your partner.
When you have the body confidence, you can explore adult toys, foreplay, roleplay, and tantra. When you are in love with yourself you can communicate with your partner. So with toys or without, please yourself often. Studies show that self-touch can increase feelings of confidence and self-esteem. In addition, women who indulge in self-pleasure are reportedly more orgasmic.
Give the Ultimate Oral Exam. Ladies, this oral sex tip is going to raise the bar on your fellatio game. Men have something called a prostate. You will need a small silver bullet vibrator, warm water, and a teaspoon of honey. Add some of the honey to your tongue and lick his pleasure stick slowly. The honey also adds to the flavor and enjoyment to the art of going down. Take a few sips of warm water. The warm water melts the honey and creates a warm, soft, velvety sensation to his penis.
While slowly going down on him you want to turn your silver bullet vibrator on low, and press it gently against his perineum. The perineum is the area between the scrotum and the anus.
This will stimulate his prostate externally. Gently massage the area with the silver bullet while orally pleasing your lover. He will experience the best knee jerking, toe curling orgasmic experience ever! Bryant is a Sexual Empowerment Coach and the creator of Sensual Honey Sweet Yoni Tea , an organic, aphrodisiac tea that makes your lovely lady parts smell good and taste sweet. Your lady parts are the flower.
Your lady parts are my candy. We both have to be fresh to get it popping. I love taking a shower with my baby before engaging in her love. I have arrived at the point in my sex life where I have to be free to lick where I want when I want. The goal is to have your partner never curious or desiring anything from anyone else—ever! You need to turn your partner out! Every couple of months something has to get broken Get Kinky with it!
And as tough as it might be to be honest with others, you first have got to be honest with yourself.