Thank you all for your effort. I have a really simple question to which there doesn't seem to be a straight answer; can I have sex with a non-retractable foreskin? Can I do damage? Here's my full story: Last summer I discovered that my foreskin should actually retract, a fact I was unaware of. This discovery overlapped with me becoming sexually active. My girlfriend was very understanding and we didn't try having penetrative sex again until I could figure out what was happening in fear of doing damage , plus I was moving abroad for a few months so it didn't matter much.
Since then, I've seen a doctor, started stretching and even used hyrdo-cortozone cream. The cream caused me to get a fungal infection because I was also washing my penis with soap everyday After a few weeks, I was able retract my foreskin while flaccid but, I'm still unable to do so when erect. Once is a while I can pull it all the way back over the head but, it's really uncomfortable and impossible to do that when having sex.
I'll be going back in a couple of weeks and I just want to be sure that having sex is not a bad idea. Because the latter is undeniably more difficult, we always advise that you perform it from the beginning. Had you read back a little more again, you would have found the advice that retracting your foreskin is not necessary for intercourse.
I presume from your reference to "having penetrative sex again" that you have actually discovered this. This could bleed but - people generally are not surprised at all if a girl's hymen is torn and she bleeds so what's the difference? The only thing you need to know about this, is if you do tear it, to keep regularly stretching it as it heals and that, requiring no special medication so that the healing process achieves the looseness you desired and which the tearing would presumably have achieved.
The only other matter about not being able to retract the foreskin, is whether it reduces sensation. For young fellows, that might even be considered an advantage. Clearly, it does reduce sensation, but arguably no more than circumcision, which removes all the sensation of the foreskin and results in continuous friction of clothing and thighs etc. And of course - particularly for "young fellows", a major aspect of sexual excitement is the presence of the partner.
As Jim mentions, he gave you the completely wrong form of steroid cream I have quite frequently explained the correct form here , so I really am fascinated to know what else he said. And what on earth would you expect a "urologist" surgeon: I suggest that anything a GP cannot do, you absolutely do not need. I need add nothing about the vital nature of condoms.