Jun 10, at 2: Probably you can trust your gut, but just in case: Here are 8 more ways to help identify his motives. Pin He just wants one thing We've all been there: Sleeping with a seemingly great guy whose motives we can't seem to figure out.
Maybe he's giving mixed signals or no signals at all. Either way, something in us makes us wonder if he's in it just for sex. Well your first clue, should be your trusty gut, but maybe your gut isn't so trusty because it is wrapped up in insecurity.
In that case, here are eight more clues that may help you solve the mystery of whether your lover is interested in you as more than just a bedmate. The truth of these clues may sting, but better to know where you stand, than to lay down for too long with the wrong guy, right?
Weekday lovers If your guy has a virtual do not disturb sign up sign up on the weekends, this is a clear sign that he is reserving weekends for someone else on his literal to-do list, or keeping his options open to meet other women. Weekends are strictly reserved for A-listers and new opportunities. Sporadic contact A guy who is really into it communicates with you regularly. A guy who is in it to sex it, calls, texts, emails and pops-over only when he is feeling frisky and knows that you will indulge his desires.
If the sight of your man's name on your caller ID surprises you, chances are, this is a sex only situation. Invitation to nowhere You never get invited to anything — his friend's birthday party, his work happy hour, not even a lackluster dinner and a movie.
Because that is the easiest place to, you guessed it You spend just enough time together for a little foreplay, sex and maybe a nap. Unless there's time and desire for a round two, a sex-only motivated man will vanish like a thief in the night before you even have time to nuzzle into little-spoon position.
Late-night lovers A sure in-it-for-the-sex-only sign is when your man only reaches out to you after hours, when the day is done and quite possibly last call has been shouted. Although he coos for you sweetly on the other end of the phone, perhaps begging for your hot body, just know that you might be on a long list of lovelies, any of one of whom can satisfy his sexual cravings for the evening.
Tangoless texts The sex-only guy is remorseless when it comes to leaving your texts unresponded to for hours - even days - and sometimes doesn't respond at all And in that case if his RSVP his positive, his reply back is immediate. Same goes for phone calls, emails, Facebook messages, tweets or any other form of communication. Sexy speak You two speak one language: If you think hard about it, you may know everything about how he likes "it" but you have no clue where his parents live, what he wanted to be when he grew up, the food that makes him gag, if he has a middle name.
There's lots of moaning and groaning but no chatter about work, family, friends, problems, triumphs, etc. Sam, 31, of New York says, "A woman who presents herself as a sexual showpiece will be treated that way. Come to the table at the very beginning with more than just the ability to blow me away in the bedroom. Blow away my mind too and that way I'll consider you relationship worthy.
He said so He told you straight up that he doesn't want a girlfriend, doesn't have time for a girlfriend, can't deal with a girlfriend It is up to you if you want to listen Justin, 24 from Oakland says, "Know who you are and be in charge of what you want from the beginning. If you leave it up to me, then I'm probably going to go for what is easiest How can you tell if he's into you?
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