Originally posted by Sex Guy Hey, guys, need your advice. Hey, guys, need your advice. This site seems to be promising. Ladies and gents with SOs , what toy would you suggest trying with her? What works for you personally?
Does anyone have the same issue? Never underestimate the power of a blended orgasm - i. The best way to hit both at the same time is through crafty finger play and angle manipulation. You want to be able to hit her g-spot rough textured, spongey feeling space on the top of her vaginal wall, about a knuckle deep while also playing with that magic spot. Here are some of my favorite tricks: Use a pillow under her lower body - near her hips, ass, thighs, to help leverage her body up a little.
This will help her relax and open her hips, and help you hit her g-spot. Angles are everything, believe me. Use your fingers to play with her clit while you penetrate her with you, toys, fingers, etc.
Or tongue, if you can manage it. Take the palm of your hand, and lightly press against the bottom, lower part of her stomach - above her vagina, but lower than her belly-button. Light pressure helps with female ejaculation squirting is real! It's a combination of sexual fluid and sometimes urine, often passed through the urethra but it can also help intensify the pressure of what you're doing to her.
You're helping, not hurting. See what sets her off. Know what sends her over the edge and makes her toes curl. Make it a setting that she finds relaxing. It's all about that head space. She needs to be relaxed otherwise she'll be too tight, clench up, etc. Music, candles, and some wine, never hurt. Is she stressed about work? Take care of that so she doesn't have to worry about it and can relax.
Clear her head space first. I'll say it again - lube, lube, lube, lube. I don't care if she's already wet or if you're using a lubricated condom. Lube will provide you with a slippery texture that will help you move faster and better for her. Get a natural based lube without glycerin that's how you get yeast infections.
Sliquid is my personal favorite. Obviously do not combine silicone lube with silicone toys - it'll melt the sex toy. That's why water-based in my go-to. New position, new angle, new places. Try fucking on a desk or a chair - trust me, it really is all about those angles. Reply Stellar Hello, everyone! Good to be back. Marvelous topic and thank you so much for that question, Sex Guy. It's inspiring to see you taking care of your wife's pleasure. About your issue - naturally, go for clitoral teasers of all kinds, with different features.
Try to find the type of stimulation she likes so that you could have a ground for further experiments. Also, mind the psychological factor. You wife obviously needs to get physical stimulation, but the idea of intimacy is fundamental, as well. For me, as a woman, that feeling of connection to my partner is one of the most orgasmic sensations out there. That said, try to combine physical stimulation with psychological. I feel like a couples' vibrator would be a fabulous choice - one of those that are worn during sex.
You lovely wife will get her fair share of clitoral stimulation while feeling deeply connected to you - because she will be, physically, linked to you with a toy And, given that couples' vibes pump men's pleasure, too, she'll know that you are enjoying the process just as much as she does, that you are in this together.
Another strong factor, in my perspective. I start playing with her clit with one finger first then slowly work it in. I then turn my palm up and do the come here motion with my finger to hit her g spot. Thats the first orgasm. I then add a finger still rubbing on the g spot but also rubbing the upper inside walls to get her second.
Add the third finger and start masturbating her quickly and deep gets her the third. I only add the fourth finger if she wants it big then i put all four fingers in up to my thumb area and start putting pressure but at the same time working my fingers anywhere i can reach.
After she is exhausted i then put in a very hard throbbing penis at this point and we generally get off together. Toys are awesome but if you learn your wifes buttons by hand first getting her there wont be an issue. Toys dont have the accuracy of my hand and sometimes you just gotta hit the right spot. On a different note. During sex if she is on top and getting close to orgasm try nibbling lightly on the ends of her nipples. My wife says she can feel it in her clit when i do that which she can orgasm several times like that.
A lot of great ideas on this thread. Try everything you can and enjoy it!!!