While all of that is pretty standard sex bonding conversation, you rarely hear about anything practical, like all of the things you have to do before you have anal sex for the first time.
This will create the optimal atmosphere for fun sexy times! Though it might feel a little taboo, your body is actually designed to enjoy anal sex! You have lots of nerve endings around your anus that can provide you with sexual pleasure. This is embarrassing, but the first time I tried, I just went right into it without any preparation. I ended up just hopping around the bed in pain because it hurt so badly! Thankfully, my boyfriend and I were able to laugh about it. Here are some steps you should take before having anal for the first time to ensure you have the best experience: The best way to do it might be on your own, since you're free from any potential judgement.
You can start with your fingers or a small sex toy - butt plugs are a fun and easy way to ease into the next step. The main thing is feeling comfortable with this part of your body and open to exploring it. If you can do it on your own, you can figure out what feels good and what doesn't - and if you even want to go further. You want to make sure they know to go slowly and that you will need to use lube and a condom. Be honest about them about how you feel about the whole thing.
Having open conversation about the subject will keep it from being an unpleasant experience. You might also want to shy away from "sharp" foods like nuts and seeds. Basically anything that makes you poop more than usual should be avoided! Afterwards, jump in the shower or use a disposable wipe. Feeling clean is one of the keys to being relaxed and at ease while having anal sex. You can find a simple bulb enema at any drugstore. Squeeze it into your rectum and immediately sit onto the toilet.
You can continue doing the process until the water is clear. This basically empties you out and makes things more clean. Putting a towel on your sheets will prevent you from freaking out if anything goes wrong and potentially gets onto your sheets. Knowing that it's there to catch anything will help make the process easier. It has to be relaxed before anything can pass through. Having an orgasm before you try anal can help!
Have your partner go down on you if you want something more gentle, or have intercourse. You can also masturbate if you want. This might also help you be more in the mood to try it. It can be more painful without lube and lead to sores that you really don't want. You'll definitely need to take it slow and gradually work into it.
This is part of talking to your partner first, but you just really need to communicate this one! What was your experience? Let me know in the comments below! Follow the author Richelle Meiss on twitter , instagram , and youtube!