Facebook 0 Twitter 0 livefyre Email Print Sex is a selfish act, a conquest of personal fulfillment. For the most part, our society celebrates the process of hook up, shack up, and break up. All you have to do is take a moment to observe the way sex is communicated in our culture. Thousands of articles are churned out on how to cope with a past of multiple partners and how to find the next one.
Nearly every sitcom on the air seems to make light of sleeping around, and films like "No Strings Attached" and " Friends with Benefits " lure young eyes to the theater, while a sex-crazed Tucker Max boasts about his conquests and skyrockets to the top of the New York Times bestseller list, becoming a cult hero for young slackers everywhere.
The problem, however, is not sex. In order to understand this, we must first understand the underlying cause of all the problems in this world: In the Bible, Paul says of the human condition: For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened.
Claiming to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things. And in case you think Paul is on some self-righteous kick to condemn sinners, he makes clear in the same letter that all of humanity is in the same boat, writing, "Therefore you have no excuse, O man, every one of you who judges. For in passing judgment on another you condemn yourself, because you, the judge, practice the very same things" Romans 2: And to drive the point home, he writes, "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.
The point is this: And apart from Jesus, we all pervert God's good gifts, such as sex. Thankfully, God is also merciful and loving. This is why he sent us Jesus to save us from our sin, and it is also why he gave us the Bible to help us understand his plan for a life that honors him and as a result leads to true fulfillment.
The Bible has a lot to say about sex—including that it's good and that it glorifies God when we enjoy sex in the context for which He created it. God created us male and female in His image and likeness with dignity, equality, value, and worth.
Men and women are different and complement one another Genesis 1: Love is more like a song than a math equation. It requires a sense of poetry and passion to be any good at it, which is why people who are stuck in their heads struggle and are frustrated by it, and lovers prefer songs to syllogisms Song of Solomon, all of it.
This is the consistent teaching of the Bible from the table of contents to the appendix and the teaching of Jesus Christ Himself Genesis 2: When our first parents consummated their covenant, God was not shocked or horrified, because He created our bodies for sex.
The reason that sex is fun, pleasurable, and wonderful is because it is a reflection of the loving goodness of God who created it as a gift for us to steward and enjoy Genesis 2: Sex outside of marriage is a sin. Sinful sex includes homosexuality, erotica, bestiality, bisexuality, fornication, friends with benefits, adultery, swinging, prostitution, incest, rape, polygamy, polyandry, sinful lust, pornography, and pedophilia I Corinthians 6: Sex is to be done in such a way that there is no shame Genesis 2: Many people experience shame in regard to sex.
Sometimes shame is a gift from God in response to our sexual sin, sometimes it is the devastating feeling we bear because we have been sexually sinned against, and other times we have not sinned or been sinned against sexually but feel shame because we have wrong thinking and feelings about sex in general, or a sex act in particular. Your standard of beauty is your spouse. God made one man and one woman.
He did not ask them if they wanted someone tall or short, light or heavy, pale or dark skinned, with long or short hair. In short, He did not permit them to develop a standard of beauty. Instead, He gave them each a spouse as a standard of beauty Genesis 2: I also understand that many of these points will either rub some of you the wrong way or even enrage you.
But, I make no apologies for the Bible and what it says. I will say this, however I don't write them to condemn you, nor does the Bible. Rather, I ask you to consider your motivations for sex. Have you ever truly given yourself to someone selflessly to love them, explore them, and cherish them until death do you part?
Have you spent your life pursuing pleasure instead of seeking to give pleasure to a lifelong spouse? And, are you truly happy and fulfilled with your sex life? The problem isn't our partners. We've perverted sex and misused it. God's way is the best way, and I encourage you to humbly pray and think about what he has to say about us and sex in his word, the Bible.
Driscoll is also co-founder of the Acts 29 Network which has planted over churches in the U. He is the author of 15 books, including the newly-released "Real Marriage: Pastor Mark Driscoll is the founding pastor of Mars Hill Church in Seattle, Washington and is one of the world's most-downloaded and quoted pastors.
His latest book is "A Call to Resurgence: Will Christianity Have a Funeral or a Future?