Thursday, May 7, -- 5: All were great shows. So why do we feel the need to do yet another show about love? Our focus this time will be less on romantic love, than on unconditional love, in all its manifestations — whether between romantic partners, between parents and their children, or between humanitarians and all humankind.
I should start out by admitting that unconditional love is rare and difficult thing. Parents may profess to love their children unconditionally. But how often do children test the limits of parental love? Couples in the first blush of new love may make dewy-eyed promises to love each other for better or for worse. But how often do such promises give way to betrayal and recrimination? We all want someone who will love us forever, through thick and thin, no matter what we do or become. Part of me thinks that unconditional love is the highest form of love.
Most religions certainly seem to believe that. But humans are vulnerable. In us, too much hurt, betrayal or disappointment kills even the deepest, most enduring love. You might even hope and believe that your love will help them become that. Unconditional love can be tough and demanding. When our children do bad things, we punish them.
We give them stern messages. But we still love them. In fact, we punish them because we love them. What does selfless mean though? What do I need to do to make the life of the beloved better, no matter the cost to myself? You can think of unconditional love as an offer to the beloved for a precious resource that is used for the good and betterment of the beloved. For most of us, doesn't the self just get in the way? But romantic love wants to be reciprocated.
Some people really seem to have an amazing capacity for selfless love. Is this anything more than a nice sounding ideal, that fails to apply to most people, most of the time? I sure hope so. Children can put their parents through an awful lot.
Some philosophers have actually argued that parental love is the pureest form of love.