Thank you for your feedback! Your feedback is private. Alice Twain , Yes, thanks. You are very likely not to feel pain at all while having penetrative sex for the first time. First of all, you need to understand what is the hymen. During foetal development the vulfa is sealed by a thin membrane, the hymen, but this usually atrophies and opens before the baby is born and reduces further during the early infancy.
Most adult women and with adult I mean menstruating have a hymen that looks like the first one in the picture below: Number 1 is a pretty common hymen, the one possessed by most women.
Number 2 is how the hymen looks after childbirth. Number 3 and 7 are less common hymens, which may cause you a little pain when you first have penetration unless you pay close attention, the rest are increasingly rare hymens that may require or certainly require medical atention. You can check the status of your hymen by delicately inserting a finger in your own vagina.
By inserting the tip of your finger lightly lubricated, better to do it whil you are masdturbating you should be able to feel around and see how mch of the opening is blocked by the hymen. Usually the finger enters easily, so move the tip around, jjust above the entrance, or hook the finger halfway and gently pull it back feeling if on the lower side there is a membrane: If folowing it you feel the membrane extending on the sides or all around the your opening is reduced and you may have some pain.
If the membrane is only on the underside you are not very likely to have pain if you do it right. Indeed, many women have no membrane at all: If, in your exploration, you find there are one or more strands of membrane across your opening, that may be painful and uncomfortable. You may consider contacting a gynecologist asking for a hymenectomy: Hymens 6, 8, and 9 are not usually fund in adult women: If this gets not done the young girl might easily die of infection.
If your mesntrual flow leaves you normally you not have one of those extremely rare situations. You may still have an hymen with an opening large enough o let the flow out but not enough to allow an easy penetration, in such a case you will immediately notice on manual inspection and therefore be able to have it surgically opened.
The hymen is a thin and elastic structure. It tends to be fragile and to stretch easily. If you checked yourself you already know that you can insert a finger in your vagina. Indeed, you can insert a tampon or a small-size menstrual cup in your vagina without much disturbing your hymen, likely. A penis is often not very much bigger than a full tampon.
Sorry, guys, I know you would all like to have dongs the size of a horse, but most men are not very much bigger than a full tampon. This said, you may need some effort to get it in. You have decided that you will go for penetration, but nothing forces you to do it all in a single setting. Start experimenting with various penetrations with the fingers, with the tip of the penis pushing just until you feel uncomfortable.
Draw it out, in other words. I promise, it will be lots of fun. Plan with your partner. Make him part of your plans on how to have penetrative sex. If he is not willing to masturbate you multiple times, lick you and basically do what most people envision as hotter than penetration activities he is probably not going to ever become a decent lover, be advised.
Make sure you are fully aroused when you try penetration partial or complete. Your natural lubrication will make everything easier, if you do not lubriccate enough you may want to add a little lubricant from a bottle usually you can buy lubricants at the supermarket, if you feel ashamed consider that many parents use a dab of lubricants to make it easier to insert suppositories in their babies when they have a fever.
Besides, when you are fully aroused your vaginal opening becomes naturally stretched and relaxed, ready to welcome the penetration. As the vagina is yours, take control of the penetration. Climb on top of your boyfriend, ride him and control how deep and at what angle does the penis enter you. Push in until you find the stretching becomes uncomfortable and relax a bit there. Go back and forth. Nothing forces you to full penetration at once.
If you move right, you are very likely to find yourself fully impaled before you feel much pain at all. And you are likely not to shed much blood. Gnanasingh Arputhadas , 1.