As I read these private accountings, I noticed something: The majority of respondents were in the middle, where the motivators for oral sex vary greatly. The act of oral sex is filled with issues. Intimacy and trust spring to mind instantly A large percentage of a man's ego is built on his virility, as well as a multitude of other sexually-charged items: And given the anemic economy, men who have lost their jobs are looking to improve their self-esteems, and rejuvenate their identities.
I'm not suggesting that oral sex is a man's way of finding self-worth, but a when a man is in control, it can often counteract feelings of inadequacy, serving as a distraction to balance out any negative feelings. But is he truly in control when a woman is down on him?
As long as everyone one is agreeable and having fun, then it doesn't matter. Sex and all things to do with sex are great. What I'm alluding to is the motivation for the act—the unspoken dynamics at play She was in control, and he was her [apparent] cooperative, willing submissive.
It makes me feel very empowered to know that I am capable of giving him maximum pleasure!!! It puts you in a powerful place for negotiating to get things done your way and I've yet to meet a man who would say no to it. And some weren't so loving with their personal motivations — but they were clear on their need for control: My friend told me how she gives her husband oral sex when she wants something big. I tried it, and it works like a charm. The trick is to hold out for a while Then go for it, give him the best head of his life.
How do you think I am able to go shopping, slack on the laundry, and take bubble baths in the evening? Even hinting at going down will have him saying, 'Yes honey; whatever you want,' for a week In delving further with some of these respondents, we discovered that the truth—the seduction for them, if you will—of why they like performing oral sex was the power they gained Which makes complete sense when you consider the act.
There he is on his back, arms stretched out, eyes closed, completely at the woman's mercy This is a man in control? This sexual act is the epitome of physical and emotional vulnerability. Nothing wrong with trust and vulnerability I would venture that much of that is a fear of intimacy