Has it been a while since you've done the deed? Maybe you and your partner have lost a bit of the spark in your love life. Or maybe you're newly single or simply don't have the time to date. It's also possible you're just focused on other things in your life and don't feel like you're missing anything by not having sex.
Regardless of the reason behind the lack of lovemaking in your life, if you've noticed any sudden changes in your mood or your body, it might be about time to get back in the game.
It turns out not having sex can actually cause some changes in your body and, sure, some of the changes you experience might be pretty pleasant, but we can tell you for certain that the vast majority of them aren't. Here's what you can probably expect to happen if making love has taken a backseat in your life.
You might have a wet dream or two Shutterstock Like a hormonal teenage boy, women who aren't making love regularly may find that their body will remind them what they're missing in their sleep. That's right, we're talking about a wet dream. This is especially likely to happen if your sex life is not only at a standstill, but you've also given up on masturbating.
Researchers had it easy when they were studying nocturnal emissions in men, the most obvious reason being because men have erections that are visible and ejaculate as proof that they've climaxed.
With women, studying these night time bouts of arousal was more complex. For researchers to collect data on female arousal during their sleep, they had to measure heart rate, do brain scans, and watch for temperature jumps near the clitoris.
While it wasn't easy, they managed to get it done, and later revealed in a study reported by Broadly that 37 percent of women will have a wet dream before the age of 45 and that they're most common in women between the ages of 40 and So, if it's been a while since you've gotten lucky, you may get a little present in the middle of the night. Your stress levels go through the roof Shutterstock According to Psychology Today , the endorphins released when you're making love are ideal for leaving your worries behind and putting a smile on your face.
So when you've gone a while without any nookie, you might notice that your stress level builds up. If you're not one to get off as often as you'd like, have no fear! It's not only those endorphins that help reduce stress levels, it's those acrobatic moves we try in the bedroom as well. Sex can be a form of exercise, which we all know fights off stress and anxiety, so if you aren't getting any these days, try not to skip your cardio workouts.
If the stress of celibacy isn't bad enough, you might also get high blood pressure. One study determined that those who had sex over a two week period had significantly lower blood pressure levels than those who were without sex, or even compared those who masturbated or participated in sexual activities that excluded intercourse. So even taking care of things yourself or making out a bit won't help your blood pressure very much. In this case, women actually do need a partner. Your immune system suffers Shutterstock Seems like making love provides some key benefits to our health, but when we're not rolling around in the sheets with our partner, we actually more susceptible to illness too.
According to the Mayo Clinic , the DHEA, or Dehydroepiandrosterone, hormone is released during arousal, with even more released when you orgasm. This hormone gives your immune system a bit of a boost, helping your body to fight against bacteria, viruses, and other pretty nasty germs. While not having sex certainly doesn't mean you're going to come down with some major illness, you'll be missing out on some of these other great benefits as well.
The DHEA hormone is also said to act as an antidepressant , make your skin look great, help repair any damaged skin tissue faster, and even increase apprehension and learning abilities. A study of college students also found higher levels of immunoglobulin A, an antibody that is important for immune function, in those who had sex at least once or twice a week when compared to those who didn't. So, no sex means no antibody to fight off that flu!
You feel depressed Shutterstock Apparently semen is the new antidepressant. That sounds like something a guy would say to get a girl in bed, but it appears to be true! Psychology Today reported on a study in which SUNY Albany female students were surveyed on their sex habits, such as frequency and whether or not they used a condom.
They then gave the same women the Beck Depression Inventory to determine their moods and level of depression. It turns out that those who were having sex without a condom were significantly less depressed than those who were using condoms or not having sex at all. When the mood elevating compounds found in semen are absorbed by the vaginal walls, they can literally cheer a woman up.
Lauren Streicher , author of Sex Rx: Hormones, Health, and Your Best Sex Ever explains, "You might be depressed because your boyfriend cheated on you and your life is in the toilet, but the specific lack of sexual activity is in no way going to cause [clinical] depression, even though there's a high correlation.
According to an article in Prevention , when your body stops having the feelings associated with orgasms, it simply adjusts to not being given those feelings and stops seeking them out. If you aren't too keen on losing your sex drive for even a short period of time, masturbation should do the trick. Sex therapist Holly Richmond, who has a PhD in Somatic Psychology even said, "People who are comfortable masturbating tend to be more thoughtful and giving lovers," so don't be shy!
Feel grateful you're a woman in this regard, as men actually can lose it if they don't use it. Like any other muscle in the body, studies have shown that when a man doesn't exercise his "Johnson" for an extended period of time, he's more likely to develop erectile dysfunction because sex helps to protect blood vessels and nerve fibers that are necessary for men to have an erection.
Your vaginal walls weaken Shutterstock It seems that over the age of 50 or so, women risk not feeling any pleasure during sex if they don't have intercourse regularly. Typically, the vaginal walls thin and weaken to the point of tearing while entering menopause, making sex extremely painful.
The best way to prevent this from happening is to keep doing the nasty well into retirement. Streicher told Reader's Digest that thinning of the vaginal walls is due to lack of blood flow, which can be increased by sexual arousal and penetration. In this case, doctors have said if you don't use it then you will lose it, so end your dry spell and hop in bed with your partner ASAP!
You're never too old to get it on. They're painful, frustrating, and seemingly never-ending. Have you ever noticed that nearly every time you've gotten an infection it was right after having sex? Most commonly, women will get an infection when having sex for the first time after a long period of time without getting it on.
Even two or three weeks can be considered a long time, so even being away from a partner for a bit can leave women at risk for a UTI. Likely the only positive thing that comes out of a long dry spell is the fact that you're pretty much in the clear when it comes to getting this nasty infection, but once you start being active in the bedroom again, you're almost guaranteed to get one.
Seems like it might be a double edged sword. You may gain weight Shutterstock You might not realize just how many calories you're burning in between the sheets.
According to Woman's Day , light kissing burns about 68 calories per hour, but you can burn around calories making out. Apparently the anticipation of these kisses leading to more than just heavy petting causes us to breathe heavier, which burns more calories. Giving your partner a sensual massage is not only great for setting the mood, but also burns 80 calories in just an hour.
And don't forget about foreplay: Sex itself burns at least calories in a half hour, but that's if you're letting your guy or gal do all the work. Changing positions, taking control on top, and even moaning every now and then will burn significantly more.
If you had sex three or four times a week, that's about 1, calories. And that's a lot of exercise to give up in a dry spell. So if you go from having regular sex to none, and you notice that you've gained a few extra pounds, this could be why.
Your brain turns to mush Shutterstock Memory loss and absent-mindedness are huge side effects of going without sex. Sex boosts the functionality of the hippocampus , which is a small part of the brain that helps with your long-term memory.
During sex, new neurons are produced, which significantly help you with your memory problems, according to at least one study.
When sex stops, this boost in your memory and cognitive functions disappears. Before you start thinking that having daily sex will give you a photographic memory, understand that the hippocampus isn't responsible for your entire memory bank. This was only found to occur in women, not men, and can explain why women who just get out of a relationship and aren't having sex can seem a little absent-minded.
Your workouts won't be as effective It turns out that a great night with your partner could also lead to a great workout the next morning. This is because the hormones released during sex help with pain tolerance, motivation, and improved sleep. During an orgasm, the hormone dopamine is released, and this little friend makes you feel good and helps get you up and moving.
That means you'll be more likely to get up and get to your workout and you might even be able to push through a bit more discomfort on the treadmill than usual. If you suddenly lose that fun source of dopamine in the bedroom, your workout motivation may go down as well.
Supermodel Miranda Kerr once confessed that she wasn't as toned after going through her divorce, because she was no longer having sex. You'll tap into your partner's feelings One of the things that physical intimacy does for us is open us up to other forms as intimacy as well.
That's part of why when we think of a relationship without sex, we can't help but think those two individuals must be distant in other ways as well. Not having sex is a symptom of a serious relationship problem, right? While a lack of intimacy might indicate an issue in some relationships, it's sometimes par for the course after having a baby.
What's more, not having sex might even help new parents tap into their partner's feelings a bit more. A study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that postpartum women who had not resumed sex yet were actually more concerned with their partner's needs and feelings about sex than their own. The new mothers reported focusing more on their partner's desire and fatigue levels, and that was the biggest predictor of when they would feel ready to resume sex.
You'll learn new coping skills Shutterstock There's a silver lining to be found in most situations, and that apparently includes what happens to you when you stop having sex for a while. We've noted how making love can keep our stress levels in check, so you'd think that not having that intimacy and stress-buster in your life would leave you completely at a loss. It turns out, however, that if you aren't having the sex that you crave, it forces you to cope with that stress and learn new ways to do so.
A study in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that when individuals who wanted sex found themselves in a celibate relationship, they learned new coping skills to keep themselves going. They also remained hopeful that sex would return, keeping them feeling positive.
So look on the bright side. At least you're growing as a person! The study didn't address people who are single and therefore not seeing any action, but like those in celibate relationships, let's stay hopeful.