Lifestyle , Relationships Let's get down to business. Sex is an essential topic that will — better sooner than later — come up in your romantic relationship, but when it involves international couples, language, and cultural barriers may make one or both of you uncomfortable at times. What language should you talk dirty in, and how do you express your fantasies without turning each other down?
These are situations that many foreign women dating Japanese men may be going through. What language to speak in the bedroom Thankfully, sex is a universal language which requires fewer words and more actions. Other terms to remember include: Your guy will most probably love it anyways! Size Matters This is a discussion that I have had more times than I care to remember over the course of my dating life in Japan.
Just as with every other nationality on the planet, there are under, average, and exceptionally endowed Japanese men. But the truth is, many Japanese men care about their sizes when it comes to sharing a bed with a foreign woman — because oftentimes they think that we expect more. And this can make them feel inferior and even shy about approaching the topic. An Australian friend of mine was dating a similar Japanese man, and while she appreciated his efforts, she wanted to change things up.
Honesty is what brought them together and the two found a solution by switching positions in bed that left both of them satisfied and assured.
The best answer to this depends on your relationship with your guy and the language you speak in bed, but reassuring him is always the way to go. We were young, broke, and neither of us was living alone, so a visit to a love hotel was the only way we could spend quality time together.
Your best bet is to just ignore them. Feeling or Not Feeling It Unless your guy is extremely experienced and influenced by foreign cultures or videos , you may find that they discuss intimate issues in bed directly far less frequently than western men. This is largely culturally influenced, and perhaps also linguistically in case of international couples.
One acquaintance in his 50s described this in the following way: We never learned that sex was supposed to feel good for everyone involved; sex was for making babies or something your girlfriend or wife did to make you happy. Cosplay, Toys, and Lotions, Oh My Some people have different needs in the bedroom, others have fantasies or habits that they want to share with you, and others still might be in relationships that are completely sexually fulfilling, but are looking for something new to try.
The same goes for things you are not comfortable with. To sum it up, honest communication is key to a healthy sexual relationship and will help make things better for you both in the long run. Other Articles by Hilary.