But did you know that God also has an opinion Wednesdays sometimes made the list too, as did the day fast periods before easter , Christmas, and Pentecost, and also feast days and days of the apostles, as well as the days of female impurity.
The list escalated until only 44 days a year remained available for marital sex! Does this surprise you? The Thing About Sex Nothing is so much to be shunned as sex relations. Augustine Intercourse is never without sin; but God excuses it by his grace because the estate of marriage is his work.
The Holy spirit leaves the room when a married couple has sex, even if they do it without passion. Did He hide under the kitchen table or in a closet?
To the sensitive young woman who has had the benefits of proper upbringing, the wedding day is, ironically, both the happiest and most terrifying day of her life. At this point, let me concede one shocking truth. Beware such an attitude! One cardinal rule of marriage should never be forgotten: Give little, give selmon, and above all, give grudgingly. How do you suppose her husband felt about such advice? We feel certain that the motivation behind the statements of these godly men and women was not to put a moratorium on sex but rather to reinforce the idea of holy days and holy practices that would honor God.
But the underlying message contained a destructive lie: Fortunately in recent years Christian leaders have espoused attitudes that contain a very different message. If anyone says that sex in itself is bad, Christianity contradicts him at once. Lewis While sex is not the only aspect of physical relationship in a marriage, it is in most cases the most important one, the touchstone for everything else from smiles and daily gestures of tenderness to deeds of kindness and sacrifice Is it not a mark of amazing grace that on top of all the pleasure that the sexual side of marriage brings, it also proves to be a fearsome weapon against our ancient foe?
And that love is the most powerful force in the world. Who speaks for God—the religious leaders and institutions that imply that sexual passion is a sin or those who say sexual intimacy between a husband and wife is blessed and holy? It comes down to this: Only in His Word. So open your Bible. Open wide your heart. Fling open your spiritual eyes and uncover your spiritual ears and turn your thinking upside down. In Genesis we read that God created sexual intimacy for Adam and Eve.
Explore three intimacy gifts hidden in the pages of scripture that the Lord longs for you to open: The Gift of intimate Knowing The Gift of Holy intimacy The Gift of exquisite Pleasure Each of these gifts will encourage you to grow in deeper intimacy with your husband.
So get ready because you are in for fun and maybe a surprise or two! What has formed your sexual perspective? Your sexual mindset has been affected by the positive and negative messages passed down through the centuries. All you have seen and heard during your growing up years—every right choice about your sexuality and every wrong choice. Where did you get yours? And what is a mindset anyway? Find a half hour alone this is hard but possible and ask God to give you His wisdom in answering the following questions.
As you begin your special time alone with God, will you pray? God, I know I have some wrong thoughts in my mind about sex. Will You please help me see where these wrong thoughts came from and show me how to unravel the mixed-up sexual thoughts in my mind? I know I need to understand this to get to Your opinion about sex.
What did you learn about sexual intimacy in your home? What did you learn from friends, movies, and TV? How did messages from the church influence you in a positive or negative way? How did the things you learned influence you when you married?
And coauthor of Intimate Issues. She and her husband, Jody, have been married for 49 years and have four children and ten grandchildren. Juli Slattery is a widely known clinical psychologist, author, speaker, and broadcast media professional.
She and her husband, Mike, have been married for 19 years and have three children.